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Hey Curtis,
Thank you for your post. I know at first that I thought just removing porn would be ok, but I recalled a period of time where I did not use porn, but MO'd to porn memories and fantasies was still rampant. I know now that I was still using the addictive pathway and eventually when back to using porn. I know I have to stop all of it in order to get better, to heal. The last 8+ days I have not PMO'd. Since I am through the first week, it seems a little easier, but ideas still pop in my head to MO. This pattern is so ingrained in me, it will take a while for those routine triggers to fade away.
The part of being so emotionally disconnected from excessive porn use is an indication on how destructive it has been to my brain. When PMO became more appealing than the real thing it was really sad. I remember thinking it was just too much has hassle to try to hookup with a real person. The PIED video on this site talks about that and something that really stood out to me on that video is that healthy sex with someone is something you can't control and can't watch. That made me think a bit.
Thank you for your post. I know at first that I thought just removing porn would be ok, but I recalled a period of time where I did not use porn, but MO'd to porn memories and fantasies was still rampant. I know now that I was still using the addictive pathway and eventually when back to using porn. I know I have to stop all of it in order to get better, to heal. The last 8+ days I have not PMO'd. Since I am through the first week, it seems a little easier, but ideas still pop in my head to MO. This pattern is so ingrained in me, it will take a while for those routine triggers to fade away.
The part of being so emotionally disconnected from excessive porn use is an indication on how destructive it has been to my brain. When PMO became more appealing than the real thing it was really sad. I remember thinking it was just too much has hassle to try to hookup with a real person. The PIED video on this site talks about that and something that really stood out to me on that video is that healthy sex with someone is something you can't control and can't watch. That made me think a bit.