"For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want." (Romans 7:19)
I'm so sick of this crap. I found out about this website a little over a month ago & have been meaning to join, but having a hard time finding the time. I found the time to look at porn today though, so I guess I had just better do it.
About Me
I'm 30, married with 3 kids 5 & under. I started on internet porn nearly 20 years ago, I'm not sure exactly how old I was, but young enough that the kind of porn I was interested in could have probably gotten my dad arrested if someone had checked the search history. I only decided it was a problem when I became a Christian at 19. At this point it was clear that it was controlling my life. Through prayer & sharing my problem with my girlfriend (now my wife of nearly 8 years), I quit. I read a number of Christian books on the subject & came up with ways to fight it & not make myself vulnerable to temptation.
And after a couple years of things going great, I just sort of stopped trying. I guess I thought I beat it, I didn't really think about the addiction much at all. But I started slipping back into old habits little by little until I realized I was back where I started. Things got worse when I started an office job with my own office about 3 years ago. It's not so simple to avoid situations of temptation when my job demands I use the internet alone for 8h a day. And when I give in I feel like crap, and when I feel like crap I make bad decision, which causes more stress. I always know as I'm giving in, "this isn't worth it, I'm going to hate myself & feel like crap," and then I do it anyway.
My church community knows about my struggle, but I don't have any close friends or anyone who can help keep me accountable. My wife knows I still struggle, but she doesn't know how much I fail & she doesn't want to. I've got to get this back under control because it is taking over my life again.
I could really use an accountability partner. Preferably one who shares my faith in Christ, who understands the power of Christ & his centrality in my life, who can encourage me in light of this. Or someone who doesn't mind talking out this issue in light of the Bible, and who doesn't mind me sharing my beliefs as a part of my journey & encouragement. I'll definitely be praying for you if you're my accountability partner (or if you ask), and I would appreciate someone who will do the same. Because it is so hard to know what a person means by "faith" - even Christian faith - I'll share a little. I'm not sentimental, and I'm generally skeptical of "feelings-focused" spirituality (ie. if the Lord speaks to you daily, I probably don't want to). I'm into apologetics & philosophy in general. I ascribe to the historic creeds, and the Bible is my ultimate authority.
If that's too much to ask, then I guess that's ok, I'll take what I can get. PM me if you would like to help.
I'm so sick of this crap. I found out about this website a little over a month ago & have been meaning to join, but having a hard time finding the time. I found the time to look at porn today though, so I guess I had just better do it.
About Me
I'm 30, married with 3 kids 5 & under. I started on internet porn nearly 20 years ago, I'm not sure exactly how old I was, but young enough that the kind of porn I was interested in could have probably gotten my dad arrested if someone had checked the search history. I only decided it was a problem when I became a Christian at 19. At this point it was clear that it was controlling my life. Through prayer & sharing my problem with my girlfriend (now my wife of nearly 8 years), I quit. I read a number of Christian books on the subject & came up with ways to fight it & not make myself vulnerable to temptation.
And after a couple years of things going great, I just sort of stopped trying. I guess I thought I beat it, I didn't really think about the addiction much at all. But I started slipping back into old habits little by little until I realized I was back where I started. Things got worse when I started an office job with my own office about 3 years ago. It's not so simple to avoid situations of temptation when my job demands I use the internet alone for 8h a day. And when I give in I feel like crap, and when I feel like crap I make bad decision, which causes more stress. I always know as I'm giving in, "this isn't worth it, I'm going to hate myself & feel like crap," and then I do it anyway.
My church community knows about my struggle, but I don't have any close friends or anyone who can help keep me accountable. My wife knows I still struggle, but she doesn't know how much I fail & she doesn't want to. I've got to get this back under control because it is taking over my life again.
I could really use an accountability partner. Preferably one who shares my faith in Christ, who understands the power of Christ & his centrality in my life, who can encourage me in light of this. Or someone who doesn't mind talking out this issue in light of the Bible, and who doesn't mind me sharing my beliefs as a part of my journey & encouragement. I'll definitely be praying for you if you're my accountability partner (or if you ask), and I would appreciate someone who will do the same. Because it is so hard to know what a person means by "faith" - even Christian faith - I'll share a little. I'm not sentimental, and I'm generally skeptical of "feelings-focused" spirituality (ie. if the Lord speaks to you daily, I probably don't want to). I'm into apologetics & philosophy in general. I ascribe to the historic creeds, and the Bible is my ultimate authority.
If that's too much to ask, then I guess that's ok, I'll take what I can get. PM me if you would like to help.