Reboot attempt #2

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TP

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Congrats with day 10!!
Regarding the masturbation, there is a really good article at:
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rethinking-wonders-adult-masturbation
'Intercourse with climax releases four times the prolactin of masturbation, helping to put the brakes on sexual desire for a time.'
For me it works exactly like that. After M I just getting more momentum and I move faster towards the relapse. I mean, the feeling of relief is very short and when desire strikes again it comes whith much more power. Of course, we all are differnt and we all have our own way.:)

I thinking coding is a good way to put your attention somethere else. I am not a real programmer, but I am learning to code and when I am trying to solve some problem I totally involved in finding the solution.

Keep strong my friend!!!
 
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NoPMO4Love

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Sorry for going MIA for a few days. Work has been extremely busy and I haven't had time to reply. I check posts though a few times a day. First thanks guys for the congrats! Second, thanks a ton for the info NewAdam. I totally can see that occurring actually. The problem with me is I feel like I have an itch when I don't M and It makes me anxious, curious and I want to start looking around. Ahhh it's such a tough situation.

That's great man! I am a software developer, heh i look at code 8-14 hours a day depending on what's coming down my pipe. What technologies / languages are you looking at? Yeah programming really engulfs you sometimes ;) can be a good out from porn for sure!

@JHall hope you're staying strong bro! Looks lke you are :D What you described sounds like what Adam mentioned. I think I'm getting to that point as well honestly. Cravings are getting stronger lately likely because I have been M daily or every other day. I think I am going to try and cut out M for a bit as well or limit it.

This morning I got suuuper upset because I was talking to this really cute chick who seemed very promising on Tinder (lame I know) and I woke up and she had unmatched me....for no reason, lol. So I ended up removing Tinder and my OKCupid account. No more dating sites. I have had good experiences from dating sites, met a few good female friends now and great sex but 98% of the time it's too negative and a hit to my ego and confidence. Cheers guys and happy Friday the 13th!
 
Maritime18

Maritime18

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NoPMO4Love,

Glad to hear you're doing better this time around man!! YBOP stresses that completely cutting M is the fastest and most effective way to reboot, so I hope you stick with your goal!

I also deleted Tinder and I'm trying to spend less time on social media.

Keep us updated and stay strong, we'll all kick addiction's ass!! When the cravings come, just think about how P and PMO put you in this rough situation in the first place. They're tough to overcome, but I'm too angry to let them win!
 
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NoPMO4Love

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Maritime, yeah I truthfully think it's the best even though it's going to be hard. I had a girl over and we were making out and I just felt nothing below, i mean maybe very shortly but not like I should have. I quit because I didn't want to be limp again and go through the same embarrassment.

Eek. Yeah that would be tough. I really need to delete my facebook because I check it WAY too much throughout the day. It's just nice to keep in touch with some people...Idk. Mad props for you to be able to do that though.

Agreed, thanks a ton dude I really appreciate the support. We're all in this together and can overcome it together for sure! Cheers to the weekend!
 
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NoPMO4Love

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I caved :( Not purposely but this girl i know talked me into camming with her over skype and one thing led to another. Ugh....It's such a vicious cycle I hate to have to restart especially after 2 weeks....I think this time though I'm going to leave M out of the equation. I felt like yesterday and today I hit my flatline too and wasn't turned on by anything but idk what it was, this girl is gorgeous and I couldn't resist =\
 
TP

TP

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Look at the bright of all that. You had nice experience with  a real girl over skype.:)
 
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NoPMO4Love

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Haha yeah but that's not important to me. I can have real experiences with women in person if I'm confident I'm not going to be soft =(
 
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JHalli1852

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Hey NoPMO4LOVE,

How's the new streak been going? Don't worry about craving just get right back on.  Some of my best streaks came right after craving in for just one day. Just watch about binging. sometimes the hardest part was getting away from it for few days.  Two weeks is a pretty good streak and be happy about how long you made it. 

Also another thing I have been realizing lately is it doesn't matter about one crave in here or there. It matters how this month looks compared to last month. You should start doing a counter for a month.  See how many days you were clean this month and try to beat that number next month. As long as that number keeps getting higher the closer you are to getting better.  Keep at it, you got it this time!!
 
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NoPMO4Love

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JHall I really like that idea man! It might actually help my mentality a bit more instead of "Oh I failed". I'll give it a shot, thanks Bro. Other than that, the past few days have been super busy so I haven't had any crazy urges to look stuff up. This girl I was with the other night knocked my phone into the jacuzzi so I literally can't kik haha. I've also been more focused at work because of it which has helped. Makes me think about turning my phone off when I get it back while I work.
 
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NoPMO4Love

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Day 4: Sorry I have not posted the past few days. To this week has flown by and I've been extensively busy with work I have not had much time to think about P. My buddy will be coming over tonight, he needs to get away from wife and kid for the weekend so we're going deep sea fishing super early tomorrow. That's at least another full day away from the computer so I should be solid (no pun intended :D) Trying to keep my head up since my last relapse.

There was this girl I used to talk to on kik who actually messaged me on Tuesday and made me feel like shit, calling me a pervert and creep for some pics we swapped a month or so back. They were regular dirty pics nothing too extreme or anything, but it just hit me kind of deep and made me feel like a creeper. I really have to stop feeding these cravings when they occur, it's taking a heavy hit on my self esteem and self worth. That's all I'll post tomorrow night after our fishing trip. Thanks for reading everyone.
 
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mtaha2015

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good ,
almost 5 days completed.
good job man.
congratulations
 
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NoPMO4Love

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Thanks a ton mtaha! I appreciate it man.

I went deep sea fishing today and was gone literally all day so no chance to PMO. Just woke up from a huge nap and am feeling exhausted as hell. i'll Probably go to sleep for the night in a bit here. I'll report back in tomorrow on day 6! Night all!
 
Maritime18

Maritime18

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NoPMO4Love said:
Maritime, yeah I truthfully think it's the best even though it's going to be hard. I had a girl over and we were making out and I just felt nothing below, i mean maybe very shortly but not like I should have. I quit because I didn't want to be limp again and go through the same embarrassment.
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The same thing happened to me a few weeks ago with a girl who later ended the relationship, it was pretty embarrassing! Not the worst of my experiences though and at least I'm making progress.

Trying to spend less time on social media hasn't been too successful for me, but hey Facebook isn't nearly as harmful as full on P!

Glad to hear you're making progress! Keep it up man!
 
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NoPMO4Love

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Totally Maritime. It's super embarrassing. Don't let it knock you down too much though. It happens. Sex isn't what porn makes it seem. Dudes go soft, people far, bump their head, fall off the bed and other funky stuff.  Thanks for the support man!
 
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mtaha2015

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Facebook is harmful , if it is a potential trigger.
if your facebook is safe , I mean no pictures of women, then it is ok.
some times , normal pics of the opposite sex are triggers for addicts.

so facebook is dangerous , I consider it as dangerous for me.
 
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NoPMO4Love

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mtaha are you saying it's harmful in the way that it acts as p subs if you just see women in bikinis or harmful because it can cause a trigger making you want to wander and look at more ?
 
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NoPMO4Love

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Just reporting in on Day 8. It was a pretty busy day with work, finished early, gamed the rest of the evening and I felt very very fatigue. I took the day off from the gym. It's only 9:30 pm and I can hardly keep my eyes open. Not sure if it has anything to do with no P or what. Hope everyone had a good monday! Cheers!
 
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mtaha2015

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yes NOPMO.
facebook is a kind of P sub
good to see your progress.
you are clean on day 8
keep moving forward
we are on same days.
 
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