This is the first entry for a chronicle of my fight against my urges to pay for porn on the Internet. and to spend a lot less time looking at porn. My main issue is webcams. I pay for other porn, too. But webcams have been my "drug of choice" if you will. I've talked about this with my wife, she knows I pay for porn a lot, and that I spend a lot of time looking at it, but she doesn't know that it's webcams. I don't think she'd handle it well. I may tell her at some point, but she has said herself that she doesn't want to know the details. Time to face up to this and change it once and for all. I know I can do it. Every time I have an urge, I'm coming here to write it down, and discuss how it makes me feel. My main trigger I think is boredom, so I'll try to have more things going on to minimize the time I am idle. I don't know how to bring this up to my therapist, though. But I feel like I should. It's important that I always remember that this will get better as long as I'm willing to make it so. I feel anxious right now, and I feel scared, so scared. I worry that my wife will leave me over this. She has handled it well so far, but I know it's hard for her. I know she appreciates my the fact that I'm telling her I feel like I have a problem, but I feel gross anyway. I feel dirty and it kills me. I feel like a dirty pervert, and I'm tired of it. I've done enough ignoring and running away. This is so scary. What if I can't do this? What if I never get better? What if I loose everything I've worked so hard to attain? The unknown is scary right know. It feels up in the air because right now because I don't trust myself fully. Hopefully that will change as time goes on. I hate that I have this problem, and I hate even more that it's webcams that I pay for. Most people think webcams are cheating. I don't know that I agree with this, especially if you don't turn your webcam on. I've always viewed it as porn. I've never thought of the person on the webcam as real, but the same as any other porn person, not real. I think that's enough for now. thanks for reading.