Mojo
Member
Hi, I have been reading forums on this site for several weeks now and have been encouraged by the progress that many of the members have made. I am also realizing that expressing my situation may have a cathartic effect on my own recovery.
I am now 50 and have been masturbating to porn since I was about 12 or 13. Through my teens and early 20's my sexual exeprience consisted of 1-night stands or very short relationships usually fizzling out after one or two attempts at sex. Even back then I was having trouble either maintaining an erection or could not ejaculate. Then I met my wife in my late 20s. She was the 1st to really help me get over my difficulties. After sometime I was having consistent erections, and after a little more time I was able to consistently orgasm during vaginal intercourse.
Fast forward several years of sex with the wife with little masturbating and almost no porn, we had a miscarriage and lost much of our intimacy. Soon after we got an internet connection to the house. As you can guess I returned to old form and it wasn't long before, my wife found the browser history. This lead to unsuccessful couples and individual therapy and eventually a separation. After a year or so she wanted to move back to our house. For the last 12 years we although we have maintained our marriage, we have not had a sexual relationship, and my dependency on PMO increased to at least once a day, and more when my wife is not around.
For the past year we have been dealing with alcohol problems through Al-anon. Although I new the my porn addiction had been a problem, working on step 4 has shown me that it has been much more of a problem than I had thought. I have tried for about 3-months to quit the habit and have made it up to 2-weeks with out PMO. My hope is eliminate porn and masturbation fro my life and to reconnect the sexual relationship with my wife.
I am now 50 and have been masturbating to porn since I was about 12 or 13. Through my teens and early 20's my sexual exeprience consisted of 1-night stands or very short relationships usually fizzling out after one or two attempts at sex. Even back then I was having trouble either maintaining an erection or could not ejaculate. Then I met my wife in my late 20s. She was the 1st to really help me get over my difficulties. After sometime I was having consistent erections, and after a little more time I was able to consistently orgasm during vaginal intercourse.
Fast forward several years of sex with the wife with little masturbating and almost no porn, we had a miscarriage and lost much of our intimacy. Soon after we got an internet connection to the house. As you can guess I returned to old form and it wasn't long before, my wife found the browser history. This lead to unsuccessful couples and individual therapy and eventually a separation. After a year or so she wanted to move back to our house. For the last 12 years we although we have maintained our marriage, we have not had a sexual relationship, and my dependency on PMO increased to at least once a day, and more when my wife is not around.
For the past year we have been dealing with alcohol problems through Al-anon. Although I new the my porn addiction had been a problem, working on step 4 has shown me that it has been much more of a problem than I had thought. I have tried for about 3-months to quit the habit and have made it up to 2-weeks with out PMO. My hope is eliminate porn and masturbation fro my life and to reconnect the sexual relationship with my wife.