Here is my problem Im 17 now and when I was in nursery I liked girls I can remember that all the time running for one beautiful girl and I kissed her in a cheek it was beautiful and through elmentary school I liked a lot of girls and I can remember that every time when I saw half naked women or naked I would be so horny and and I started to rub my dick on eneything when I would see something like that and with that I would have some orgasm I was horny all the time in 7th grade I had a girlfriend and I was so happy with her I wanted to hug her or be with her all the time I looked first porn in 4th grade but I got highspeed internet in 6th grade and didnt go out at all I was just looking at porn all the time from normal porn to more end more extreme porn I was looking for more and more weirder porn I would be horny when I was watching women pissing on another women and get horny and now a problem the last porn when was everything normal was with two girls that are raped form some men every thing was boring just that was aroused for me and when that became boring I started to watch gay agressive domination porn and shemale porn and from then when I would 1 week or something like that without porn the old porn would become little aroused for me and I would watch for 2-3 hours fapp day by day and it becomes boring again and gay porn would very arousing for me and I started to have fantasis about that kind of sex when is someone agressive with me and dominates over me it is like when I see women on the street I dont feel eneything eneymore Im cold when I see beautiful women on the street when I watch sraight porn I get an erection but it is not the same I DONT FEEL AROUSED like before I think that my longest without porn is 3 weeks when a watch girls solo porn I get erection immediately and when I watch gay solo porn I dont get an erection but that agressive porn is something else its something like forbidden I dont now I liked many girls through my life never men and I STARTED TO WATCH PORN WHEN I WAS 11 I dont now what to do and when I see some girls I become worried how do I look and what they think about me please help
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mtaha2015
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heavy porn use has brought all these problem in your life. you are dealing with stress, anxiety , social anxiety, loss of energy and motivation due to porn addiction. and depression too. these all symptoms are common.
you are young. change your life. be responsible. take responsibility and fight this drug. that's all you have to do. take bold action , do what ever it takes to get rid of this addiction. other wise it will ruin your life.
you are young. change your life. be responsible. take responsibility and fight this drug. that's all you have to do. take bold action , do what ever it takes to get rid of this addiction. other wise it will ruin your life.
Everything is true Im so confused because I have always been inloved in girls and when I see naked women I get erection and when I see naked men I dont feel eneything and I dont have erection but straight porn became boring too me maybe because I watch too much but I dont know why I want that some gay men rape me like in that pornos
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mtaha2015
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aberrant porn taste. brain changes can be the cause,
but don't worry. you are not gay. you are straight. porn taste is changing. get more and more hardcore and bad.
Evil has no boundaries.
but don't worry. you are not gay. you are straight. porn taste is changing. get more and more hardcore and bad.
Evil has no boundaries.
Ontrack Man
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Hi,
first of all, if you read about what porn can do to your brain sexual taste is one of the consequences of addiction, we need stronger and stranger things to arouse us. The same thing happened to me, but I am 30 now and didn't know it was the cause of porn. I started seeing more and more gay porn until I thought I was gay and tried that in real life. What turned me on was that I thought it was forbidden.
I have had PIED and I think it is mixed with HOCD so don't wait until it is too late and more difficult, quit now it is poison for your sexuality. Once you quit and start connecting with yourself and your true sensations you will see that your attraction to girls come back. I am on reboot to reset all the damage this has done to me and in the end I will do what I really enjoy.
Also, please PLEASE use punctuation marks, commas and periods, it is extremely difficult to read your post although I find it interesting and hope we can help each other out. You are young it could get a lot worse but you will need some time to completely rewire. Be patient, stay strong, and keep clear goals in your mind.
Take care
first of all, if you read about what porn can do to your brain sexual taste is one of the consequences of addiction, we need stronger and stranger things to arouse us. The same thing happened to me, but I am 30 now and didn't know it was the cause of porn. I started seeing more and more gay porn until I thought I was gay and tried that in real life. What turned me on was that I thought it was forbidden.
I have had PIED and I think it is mixed with HOCD so don't wait until it is too late and more difficult, quit now it is poison for your sexuality. Once you quit and start connecting with yourself and your true sensations you will see that your attraction to girls come back. I am on reboot to reset all the damage this has done to me and in the end I will do what I really enjoy.
Also, please PLEASE use punctuation marks, commas and periods, it is extremely difficult to read your post although I find it interesting and hope we can help each other out. You are young it could get a lot worse but you will need some time to completely rewire. Be patient, stay strong, and keep clear goals in your mind.
Take care
How did you figure out that your attraction toward gay pornos is because of too much porn and it is strange when I was very young eneything of what I was thinking were girls I wanted to kiss them and be with them and no one forced me to it, but I felt that this is what I want and after so many pornos Im confused when I see naked men I dont get erection but pornos are another story
Ontrack Man
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When I started watching porn, I did not watch anything gay. Then , just interested in light, soft core things. . . then with time, domination, bondage, femdom, and other things that I don't want to do in real life.
Also, there is nothing wrong with being gay/bisexual, but if you try and you don't feel well after, maybe that's not what you really like. First reboot, and those answers will come by themselves.
I also don't get erection with naked men, I go to the gym and shower and I don't feel attraction, but certain situations with guys do turn me on, because they are similar to the porno I watched.
Also, there is nothing wrong with being gay/bisexual, but if you try and you don't feel well after, maybe that's not what you really like. First reboot, and those answers will come by themselves.
I also don't get erection with naked men, I go to the gym and shower and I don't feel attraction, but certain situations with guys do turn me on, because they are similar to the porno I watched.
The same with me, the strange is that when Im watch naked women I immediately get erection and when Im watching straight porn it is boring like I have seen everything ,did your attraction thowards straight porn became less arousing, and now when Im thinking about that am I gay or not like I can notice other men I dont get urge to kiss them but like I can see that they are handsome or I dont...mybe Im compering myself with them I loved girls since earley age so everything is confusing
Ontrack Man
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Yes, that is the beginning. Straight porn is not arousing, so you look for more prohibited videos. I do not think you are gay, but don't think about that. Just stop watching porn and in some months you will connect better with women.
We can all notice men if they are handsome or not, but you have to know if you really want to kiss them or not. If you get aroused with women then your only problem is porn. Quit now, forget porn. Don't compare, just be natural and enjoy.
When I watched a lot of gay porn, something strange happened... I started feeling attracted to straight porn again and get erections to that.
Where are you from? Also, thank you for using punctuation marks like: " , . ? ... " hehe
We can all notice men if they are handsome or not, but you have to know if you really want to kiss them or not. If you get aroused with women then your only problem is porn. Quit now, forget porn. Don't compare, just be natural and enjoy.
When I watched a lot of gay porn, something strange happened... I started feeling attracted to straight porn again and get erections to that.
Where are you from? Also, thank you for using punctuation marks like: " , . ? ... " hehe
Sorry I cant tell you where from Am I. Tell me this when I see a naked women I get erection but Im not turn on why maybe because I have seen a lot of things I dont now and Im worry because I was watching pornos maybe a year and it was from soft to extreme and rape to gay pornos ,why other people that watches that much porno is still on staright porn, staright porn is boring to me but I have erection on naked women and straight porn that does not make sense and maybe I have problem with this because havent stoped watching porn since I was 11
Ontrack Man
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Yes that is the reason. You have watched a lot of porn. And your brain is used to straight porn, and gay porn is not boring because is it new. Read about the Coolige Effect here:
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-novelty-and-the-coolidge-effect
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-novelty-and-the-coolidge-effect
53nomorepmo
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I am fairly new to the reboot process, but one of the reasons I am here is exactly the issue "men" is describing. At 53 I am confident I am straight, yet excessive interest in new a different porn led me to begin exploring the idea of trying new things. Not because I wanted to change my sexual preference but simply because I wanted the novelty of something new. The story of watching things you never thought you would, or seeking out novelty in my opinion may be the coolige effect raising its ugly head after significant time with PMO. I know it happened to me.
Clearly this aspect of PMO was not going to a be a positive change for me, and with evaluation I knew it would ruin my life. It was bad enough that my behavior had come to a point were it was soaking up countless hours and making intimacy with my spouse hit and miss (PIED). If you don't gravitate towards men in real life are probably not gay. Good luck to you in your quest to reboot! I am hoping it makes the change I need, but logically no matter what happens the effort is well worth it.
Clearly this aspect of PMO was not going to a be a positive change for me, and with evaluation I knew it would ruin my life. It was bad enough that my behavior had come to a point were it was soaking up countless hours and making intimacy with my spouse hit and miss (PIED). If you don't gravitate towards men in real life are probably not gay. Good luck to you in your quest to reboot! I am hoping it makes the change I need, but logically no matter what happens the effort is well worth it.
Porn is worst decision I have made from nursey I liked girls I kissed a girls in nursery because I liked her and from then I was falling in love in girls I was addicted to girls I would be horny just too see girl in bikini and then porn came and fucked me up when I see beautiful girl on street Im just cold I dont know what am I.I loved girls since my earliest memories how that can changed
I'm In the same position as you man. I feel the same way. I escalated to this shit and it threw my world upside down. I have been attempting to reboot for almost a year now 8 months monk mode and my brain still remember a thin shit. I have no attraction for girls it's ducking frustrating because I like you grew up adoring girls crushes and everything. 3 years of porn escalation and to extreme material has left me extremely unhappy and confused. It's the ducking porn man we taught our brains to associate this shit with our a sexuality and we have to break that connection. It takes a long fucking time and a lot of willpower you just have to be comfortable with your thoughts and accept them....for now the brain can rewire itself.
Ontrack Man
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Hi,
do you guys feel that having PIED to women makes you think that you might be gay? It's happened to me for years and it's hard to unwind the confusion.
I've also been attracted to girls since a kid, had girlfriends and everything. But I've also been with guys. Also remember that sexuality is a fluid thing and it changes throughout life, nobody likes the same thing when they are 20 years old and when they are 50.
also, Men, how can you have an erection and not be turned on? does that mean your body reacts but you don't want to do anything with them? Take care,
do you guys feel that having PIED to women makes you think that you might be gay? It's happened to me for years and it's hard to unwind the confusion.
I've also been attracted to girls since a kid, had girlfriends and everything. But I've also been with guys. Also remember that sexuality is a fluid thing and it changes throughout life, nobody likes the same thing when they are 20 years old and when they are 50.
also, Men, how can you have an erection and not be turned on? does that mean your body reacts but you don't want to do anything with them? Take care,
I don't think you should base your sexuality on when you get an erection. If you don't get erections around girls, it doesn't mean that you are gay. Just think for yourself: what would you prefer, to be with a girl, or with a guy? I understand the confusion. I had actually been thinking was asexual but really liked porn for reason. When I found out about this whole nofap thing and PIED, I immediately gave up porn and my feelings for girls returned.Ontrack Man said:
Getting an erection and not being turned on, I have the complete opposite. Your mind and body react different to women. There might be a disconnection between the two if you experience that. I don't know your background with porn and sex but I'm guessing you formed a pattern where you got turned on, and now your body reacts as soon as you use some of those pathways that you used for the patterns you formed.
I don't know if this is all true, but just an idea on how I look at certain things.
Take care
cinefile77
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This has been an issue for me, too. A lot of it has to do with fantasy vs reality. When watching porn, your mind can go in so many directions from all the stimulation. Depending what you're watching, it's probably models. These places seem to find the most beautiful guys in the world. However, no one in my gym class looked like that and I don't think anyone at my gym does either. Most of us are sold on the fantasy. But in reality, I love being with my girlfriend. Since giving up porn, everything works again and she's more open to me. That being said, my sexuality tends to shift in general but I feel like porn pushed the confusion into a whole other universe. It's so much easier now without it.
53nomorepmo
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Ontrack Man said:
Sexuality and sexual attraction are fluid. Almost everyone falls on this scale. http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/research/ak-hhscale.html Some people draw it as a bell curve. Unfortunately there is disagreement about how this curve actually looks since politics, religion, values, prejudice, etc. etc. always enter into the discussion. Here is an example of the bell curve in one person's option. http://joe-schiller.com/philosophy/graphs/sod.htm
So what does this mean? To me it means that most people can be attracted at some point to some aspect of the opposite sex. Most people have a preference. In my case I am most definitely heterosexual. In my case however, some small part of my attraction made my search for novelty, perhaps the Coolidge effect led me to experimenting by looking at P with bi content to see if I could get aroused. I also became curious about male sex acts. It didn't lead anywhere. I think the problem as it relates to PMO is that in a monogamous relationship (gay or not gay) if we use P to get off we are straying from our own value system. This can lead to a lot of misery.
So I guess everyone has to figure out for the selves what there sexual preference is, but using P to do so is probably not a good idea. The real world is much more interesting. See your brain on porn discussions concerning HOCD...