sexual confusion

[men]

you cant change your sexual orientation that is a fact. When I was in nursery I liked one girl and was fallowing her everywhere and  and in the end she I said to her that I would stop follow her if I kiss her in cheek and I did that. And in primary school I liked another girls...but in all those time I would looking for pictures of naked women or I can remember that I saw on TV girls in bikini and I would rub my penis on something and  I would get fealing like when I mastrubate and cum I would get that dopamine fealing. I first looked at porn in 4th grade and in my 6th grade I was constantly at home looking at porn and after rougher and sick things I started to watch gay porn at first I couldnt look how men kiss each other it was gross to me but after some time that become normal to me it was like something rougher and like forbbiden and.... And about that Iam not aroused but get erection look at doctor oz somewere on this site. A neurologist said that some people can get erection but they dont feel aroused like me it is like boaring to me in last 5 years I havent been without porn more than 3 weeks

 

[Ontrack Man]

So what does this mean?  To me it means that most people can be attracted at some point to some aspect of the opposite sex.  Most people have a preference. 

Thanks so much for the links, the words "psychological homosexuality refers to sexual rebellion" really caught my eye. I've thought for some time that some men have homosexual feelings as a way of going against the norm, getting a high from breaking the rules or as a way of proving "it's ok to be gay".

I think you're right, it's best to keep having real life relationships as a way to explore my own sexuality, but I can't let P get in the way.  Maybe as I clean my brain from those images i'll find conclusions arising.

 

[Ontrack Man]

This has been an issue for me, too. A lot of it has to do with fantasy vs reality. When watching porn, your mind can go in so many directions from all the stimulation. Depending what you're watching, it's probably models. These places seem to find the most beautiful guys in the world. However, no one in my gym class looked like that and I don't think anyone at my gym does either. Most of us are sold on the fantasy. But in reality, I love being with my girlfriend. Since giving up porn, everything works again and she's more open to me. That being said, my sexuality tends to shift in general but I feel like porn pushed the confusion into a whole other universe. It's so much easier now without it.

Yeah, I think we are more hooked on the idea of a guy, and a certain type of guy than the real thin, really.

 

[jacob2010]

Watch the adolescent mind on instant porn. Or adolescent something. It's in the corner for you to watch. It's on the homepage in the corner. Shows half a brain. It will explain this confusion and help you relax more.

 

[Ontrack Man]

Thanks so much , These things are really useful to keep in mind and watch again and again. 

 

[Pr3c1se]

Here's the best advice I can give you.  The fact you're feeling like this means you're not gay.  What you need to do is stop watching porn because it's affecting your stimulation response in your brain.

A gay kid in the closet would say something like this, "I am so physically attracted to guys I see on the street, I just want to kiss this one cute guy I saw today, but I don't want anyone to know" etc....That's what someone gay would say. 

I hope that clears up your confusion.