Brock Savage said:
Day7!
Hi Leir,
Good to hear you have very similar experiences.
"The best thing now is to learn how to like them as they are. And that's what make them so interesting now."
I totally feel you man.. that's what keeps things interesting and what keeps you wanting to meet more girls.
The non drinking experiment is a good challenge! I don't know if I can do that one though, haha.... maybe.
I feel like I'm meeting a lot of girls from going out and drinking or going to events where there's alcohol...but I know I don't need it. Maybe 1 month of cutting down on drinking, or 2 drink maximum per night, could be possible. haha.
How's your reboot going? I have to admit, I did slip and look at some stuff online for a couple minutes today. But no fapping. So I'm not going to consider it a full failure where I have to reset the clock again. But as far as girls, this week really has been the most successful of my life so far...and it all started with rebooting 8 days ago. So things are good. Now just gotta do more daygame...
-Brock Savage
Hey Brock, sorry for not answering before.
Yeah, going full on cutting alcohol might be too extreme at beginning. The two beers/night option sounds better IMO. My suggestion came because in your 1st post you mentioned that "alcohol didn't help" you in this journey, sometimes leading to relapse. It's good to mention that consumption of alcohol in great quantities reduces testosterone, so it might numb the positive effects of no-PMO.
Regardless of that, moderation is key. We don't want to become monks, holy men or anything (although we meditate
), we just want to get this part of life settled, right?
Hey man, relapsing always teaches us something. Try not to put yourself down for it and see what lead you to that. Was it social media? Was it some sort of habit that usually leads you to MO? Being aware of that is important, so you can deal with it even better. Just don't give up.
Since we both have this PUA background and have similar purposes (getting better with women), I propose we become accountability partners. What do you think?
As for me, so far is going good. I know how slipping back is tempting. Social media is killer when it comes to that: sometimes I'm browsing my timeline and, all of a sudden, I see some news involving hot actresses and it tempts me to google them after their bodies, or if they already made nude/sex scenes. By realizing that I'm about to throw in this pattern, I stop myself and say:
I know where this is going. I will not. My curiousity is just temporary. Abandon it now, and it'll pass like any other thought.
One thing that really crushes me is that I'm addicted to dopamine in general, so my body asks for compensation after porn: sugary foods, lots of sleeping, playing games... and yeah, I'm slowly becoming a lazy ass for that. I'm still a bit sick, had fever yesterday and I'm coughing a lot lately. I'm taking pills and I'm trying to get better, but overall I feel procrastination is killing me. I feel useless.
That's why they say no-PMO is about changing YOU, I believe.
Anyways Brock, one thing that worries me a lot is my emotions. I am dating a girl I met two weeks ago and I'd love to keep things going, but I'm worried I might be too invested on her. It could be also a side effect of no-PMO: wanting to find someone so you can finally settle down and have healthy sex. I'm not into playing games, but since I'm always the one taking the lead, I worry I might be the one who's too invested on this. And this leads me to a paradox: why it makes me more attached when it should improve my conditions?
Again, it might have other reasons, I'm not sure.
Stay sharp and, if you're interested in accountability, just inbox me!