Hello gentlemen,
Day 101 PMO and MO free. I?ve been keeping up on the posts here and feel supported by that. There?s a lot of really thoughtful, heartfelt sharing going on, and beautiful, loving support between the men in here. I?m really touched by it.
I?ve had a lot more close female friends than male friends in my life. I have valued women?s willingness to be vulnerable and share openly. I have thought that men didn?t have those qualities. I wonder now if it?s been more a case of me not being willing to be open and vulnerable with men. As a gay boy growing up in a military family I always thought it was just being smart to protect myself from ridicule. So I think I?ve been quite guarded in my interactions with men.
Whether that was a helpful strategy or not, my eyes are open now to a different perspective. I am very moved by the communication going on here between men. It?s one of the gifts to come out of the dysfunction of porn - for us to be sharing the basics about our sexuality, our fears, our equipment failure, our relationship struggles; and the ripples that flow out from there into our self esteem, shame, anxiety, and how to live each day.
I feel such connection with you men, and such gratitude for your honesty. Yes, it?s online and anonymous, but in a way that doesn?t matter - we?re human beings making contact, and from the stuff I?m reading, it?s the real deal. In some ways the anonymity and written format allow for more openness, without the filters of personality, identity, body.
I also feel myself relating to men in ?real life? differently, affected by what I?ve experienced here. I?m seeing men more without my filter of protection. They seem more endearing, I?m more open and interested. Actually, there are ways I sometimes find women annoying - talking too much, interrupting, over sensitive, emotionally needy - and I?m appreciating the male contrast - say what you mean, get to the point, stand up for yourself, show some guts. Of course these are generalizations, but I appreciate them in a new way.
So thank you men, you fucking rock!
My reboot is flowing along nicely. I have been home for a solid month, very unusual for me as I travel most of the time for work. I?ve loved being earthbound at home. I went off coffee, just figuring I?d throw another little log on the fire of this reboot. I really love coffee. I look forward to resuming our love affair. And for now, a little adrenal rest couldn?t hurt.
My partner has passed through several times in his travels, and we?ve had lovely close time together. Both of us getting over colds, then me recovering from minor surgery, so mostly low key. But I did get randy one day.
(Possible trigger material): We were sitting together working when I snuggled up to him for a bit, and before you know it we got in the shower and he got me good and hard and brought me to O. It was especially nice because I didn't even touch myself, just made out with him and held onto him.
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I would say my boner gave it?s best performance to date. Looking forward to more