bbkenpo said:
OK so I am wondering how long it took you from when you started till you had your first climax without DE?
I have had DE for 4 years - thank god not for entire life - but it consumes me. I cannot wait till my first time cumming from sex with my girlfriend. I have no idea how long this will be. I have no difficulty in getting or staying erect, just cumming. Thanks
OP here, I will give some background to my situation. A year ago I dated a girl for about 4 months. During this time we had sex about 20 times without a single climax for me! Like you, I never had ED, but DE was enough to put tremendous pressure on our relationship! After quitting masturbation for about a month, I actually managed to orgasm with her. But it was always uncertain... Sometimes I could cum but usually not. We broke up, but my DE problem persisted to the next relationships as well. It has caused several promising relationships to fail.
But multiple streaks of no MO (and naturally no P) has slowly helped me during the past year! My longest streak was 79 days. To answer your question, it took about a month of no MO before I saw results. And it was a gradual process, not a sudden miracle. You should be patient and aim for 90 days of no MO.
Currently I have been dating a girl for a couple of months. We have had a lot of sex, and I would say I manage to orgasm 90% of the "1st rounds" (i.e. the first intercourse of the evening together). If we go for round 2, my success rate drops to about 30%. I am still not happy, but at least things have improved from the situation I had a year ago!
Thankfully, my recent relapse didn't destroy all of my progress, because I have had sex twice with my gf this week, and I managed to cum both times. However, it took longer than usual, I'm not sure if it is related to my relapse or not...
Wish you all the best in your journey!