fyg
Well-Known Member
Did I use porn today? No
Did I proactively fantasize today? No
What were my triggers? N/A
How did I soothe my anxiety or stress? See below
What am I grateful for today? Belief in that things will get better
Day counter! 20 (and at that, I'll forget the number again)
MW? Yes
Flatlining? Yes
Stuck with morning routine of making bed this AM. Flatling, noticeably, today, but noticed that checking women out still comes automatically - brain looking for dopamine but more important for me at the moment, it also shows just how conditioned I/we are... aka look at me and how manly I am, I can stare at women!! - note this for future self. This isn't a new realisation, but it's easy to forget. I know that I can stare at women on the street to get a return glance, and in that glance I receive validation. It's not cool to put your self-worth in the hands of another, and especially in something so fleeting, and basically imaginary (I mean, a glance isn't a relationship!). Happy to say, this has reduced quite a lot and I wish to replace the external validation with my own internal validation; without being glib - to go from a feeling of scarcity to one of abundance. Scarcity is a horrible feeling, and and is a dis-ease of the mind - I have it, but want to get rid.
Also, just now was feeling super depressed and sorry for self as going through a lonely patch and looking closely at my not-so-amazing-relationships... but! Thought f**k this! Got up, picked up the dumbbells and did 3 X 10 sets of shoulder presses and by bicep curls... and I'm happy to say, it worked! Still don't feel mentally amazing right now, but that interruption worked wonders! Don't think have combatted depression like that before.
Cheers for now.
Did I proactively fantasize today? No
What were my triggers? N/A
How did I soothe my anxiety or stress? See below
What am I grateful for today? Belief in that things will get better
Day counter! 20 (and at that, I'll forget the number again)
MW? Yes
Flatlining? Yes
Stuck with morning routine of making bed this AM. Flatling, noticeably, today, but noticed that checking women out still comes automatically - brain looking for dopamine but more important for me at the moment, it also shows just how conditioned I/we are... aka look at me and how manly I am, I can stare at women!! - note this for future self. This isn't a new realisation, but it's easy to forget. I know that I can stare at women on the street to get a return glance, and in that glance I receive validation. It's not cool to put your self-worth in the hands of another, and especially in something so fleeting, and basically imaginary (I mean, a glance isn't a relationship!). Happy to say, this has reduced quite a lot and I wish to replace the external validation with my own internal validation; without being glib - to go from a feeling of scarcity to one of abundance. Scarcity is a horrible feeling, and and is a dis-ease of the mind - I have it, but want to get rid.
Also, just now was feeling super depressed and sorry for self as going through a lonely patch and looking closely at my not-so-amazing-relationships... but! Thought f**k this! Got up, picked up the dumbbells and did 3 X 10 sets of shoulder presses and by bicep curls... and I'm happy to say, it worked! Still don't feel mentally amazing right now, but that interruption worked wonders! Don't think have combatted depression like that before.
Cheers for now.