Let’s get there for sure in 2022! Good luckI'll get there. I'm on day 9.
Let’s get there for sure in 2022! Good luckI'll get there. I'm on day 9.
@EscapeandnevercomebackThat's the voice of the addicted beast within you. You've done a good job identifying it, so it can't catch you by surprise.
I'm not willing to discourage you, but i think you cannot succeed because you don't have the mindset of a winner. You're trying since 2019 if I'm not wrong, and today is your day 5 of your rebooting. C'mon man, are you kidding? You always relapse and postpone the reboot!! Remember your habit of postponing will become stronger and stronger day by day and there will never be such time when the change will take place. Nobody will tell you like this, because everyone here thinks that no matter what, you will improve if you wish to, but i say you will never accomplish as you keep doing the same mistakes again and again despite of knowing the useful strategies, protocols. Wish you luck man! PEACE OUTDay 5 today
Feeling pretty optimistic to go on another 3-4 days at least without any hiccups . I don’t know what it is inside my mind that makes me feel this way that yes I can go another 4 days without much problem . Let’s see if I can keep that going longer .
My friends, keep reminding yourself over and over -
“P and P subs are a a big waste of time , they are pain givers any day , they come in and forcefully occupy our minds and actions and hand us over a truck load of Guilt , Pain , Shame and regrets which then we need to carry the burden through out our life time “
Let’s make a resolve -
“We won’t let P and P subs have our attention our time or our actions “
Next time P or P subs jump up inside our minds
We will go do something else -
“ Either I will go take a walk outside , or I will watch news or I will read a book or talk to someone or just Meditate until we feel positive “
MI30S
@Honey98$I'm not willing to discourage you, but i think you cannot succeed because you don't have the mindset of a winner. You're trying since 2019 if I'm not wrong, and today is your day 5 of your rebooting. C'mon man, are you kidding? You always relapse and postpone the reboot!! Remember your habit of postponing will become stronger and stronger day by day and there will never be such time when the change will take place. Nobody will tell you like this, because everyone here thinks that no matter what, you will improve if you wish to, but i say you will never accomplish as you keep doing the same mistakes again and again despite of knowing the useful strategies, protocols. Wish you luck man! PEACE OUT
You can do it bro! Just remember you're stronger than your habits. It's you who built them and only you have the power break them. Come stronger this time@Honey98$
Thanks for your words and reading my blog .
well it is true that I am a BIG procrastinator when it comes to reboot . I should have hit multiple 100 days reboot by now since I started writing in 2019 .
I will make sure to get atleast two if not three 100 day streak in 2022!
your inputs are really helpful. Thanks bud
MI30S
Thanks for sharing the book @logicroxWe've all been there. Many times. Never a waste of time.
I don't think punishing yourself is really productive. For me that always just made me feel worse. The point isn't to take your lashes and feel guilt. That isn't productive. Need to focus on getting motivated, focused, and EXCITED to change.
Have you read Easy Peasy? It was actually really beneficial for me.
easypeasy
Painlessly quit pornography without any sense of deprivation or sacrifice.easypeasymethod.org
I read it over a couple of days. I think somewhere in there he suggests taking your time to let it sink in. His logic is really sound, but it took a while for me to emotionally believe him. I do believe him now.Thanks for sharing the book @logicrox
am reading the easy prays book now . How long did it take for you to finish that book .
MI30S
I don't want you to get mad at me for saying this but I believe you are too hard on yourself, just like I tend to be (hopefully I will get rid of this). Being too hard on yourself can invite porn even more to offer "comfort". I know that when I hate myself, I don't have much success with the recovery. I don't have the ultimate solution, I don't think there is one, I believe that everyone has an approach that works for them and we should not stop searching for that plan that is particular to our lives and will help us succeed. It could be one thing, it could be several things, it could be a bigger picture, a bigger life plan or whatever, do some deep thinking and see if you can figure out how you should approach this. I've done this and I believe that abstinence from porn is not the only thing that I have to do, I will eventually spiral back to porn if this is all I'm doing. For me porn is a comfort zone, it's self-medication and unless I do something about this, about the trauma that I've been trying all my life to fix with "drugs", I will not fully recover. Yes, I could go 100 days without porn, maybe even this time, I've found a short term thing to use, but I have work to do. Some people seem to get longer streaks more easily, I don't, maybe you don't either, but it is what it is, we have more work to do but it doesn't mean we should not do it. I've read some of your posts and you remind me of myself, constantly relapsing with streaks under 10 days, over and over again, into an oblivion. That's what I've been doing for years. But I believe that a combination of things like short term habits, long term habits, trauma healing, building a better life etc is what I need and it's what I haven't been doing to the best of my abilities, I've been procrastinating a lot for years. It's time to up our games and work hard.I feel like a hypocrite . I talk a lot , write a lot and what not.
but when its the moment to exhibit self control and righteousness and commitment to reboot. I am a wus and that is all there about me.
and then I hope someone on this forum cheers me up to make me feel better and encouraged. I feel worse that after I relapse countless times I am wasting time of others too who are reading my blogs here . They are up to reading my sad relapsing stories all the time instead of reading something useful that will help them reboot successfully in their next try at least.
Again , I am trying to earn some sympathy from someone here. I don't know how to deal with this , no I don't know how to punish myself for this.
only way I will punish myself is by trying again this time to go on a longer streak at least more than 3 days.
MI30S.