I do not relapse, I lapsed. Note the nuance. These past few days since I acted out I have struggled with temptation and fantasy, etc, but I have not given in to it. Today I am feeling healthy again.
In the Jewish calendar tonight and tomorrow is the Day of Atonement. It's a massive opportunity to refocus our energy and mindset. On this subject, I was listening to a lecture who explained the following:
It is NOT about willpower or discipline (although this is a part of it), but fundamentally about making a clear and absolute DECISION about how we want to live our lives; as long as we are clear on the truth (aka integrity) then we have a strong enough REASON (aka sustainable motivation).
Once we make our mind up then we commit to it; if we are not 100% invested then alternative behaviours (e.g. PMO) becomes an option, which is of course when we then struggle and think about willpower, etc.
In the Jewish calendar tonight and tomorrow is the Day of Atonement. It's a massive opportunity to refocus our energy and mindset. On this subject, I was listening to a lecture who explained the following:
It is NOT about willpower or discipline (although this is a part of it), but fundamentally about making a clear and absolute DECISION about how we want to live our lives; as long as we are clear on the truth (aka integrity) then we have a strong enough REASON (aka sustainable motivation).
Once we make our mind up then we commit to it; if we are not 100% invested then alternative behaviours (e.g. PMO) becomes an option, which is of course when we then struggle and think about willpower, etc.