camus
Active Member
Thanks for your support guys.
I managed to get a long streak (3 month approx April - July) earlier this year before relapsing. Since this relapse it has been difficult to get back on track. What I do know is that my life is so much better when I'm clean - calmer, happier, healthier etc etc. To be honest, I can't see any advantage to using porn. It is a waste of life.
During the past 2 months, the obsession to use/not use has been overwhelming at times. What I have learnt is that at some point prior to relapse, I internally give up trying to fight thoughts of using, and instead start planning a relapse (for example when I get a free weekend alone).
This addiction is. for me, the battleground of a spiritual war. Not in a sense that porn is a sin or I am bad in any way. For me spirituality is that which is not of the mind. That place where I am fully in the present moment is a position of strength from which I can beat this addiction, because being present means I am not caught up in my mind's thoughts and therefore not vulnerable to my addictive thought process.
I have consciously chosen to be present in the midst of bad cravings and the cravings subside. Trouble is, I then allow my mind to go back to porn thoughts, which can give me enough of a spike in dopamine, to set of a severe bout of cravings.
In some ways, my addiction is a gift. It is teaching me the value of having a disciplined mind.
I managed to get a long streak (3 month approx April - July) earlier this year before relapsing. Since this relapse it has been difficult to get back on track. What I do know is that my life is so much better when I'm clean - calmer, happier, healthier etc etc. To be honest, I can't see any advantage to using porn. It is a waste of life.
During the past 2 months, the obsession to use/not use has been overwhelming at times. What I have learnt is that at some point prior to relapse, I internally give up trying to fight thoughts of using, and instead start planning a relapse (for example when I get a free weekend alone).
This addiction is. for me, the battleground of a spiritual war. Not in a sense that porn is a sin or I am bad in any way. For me spirituality is that which is not of the mind. That place where I am fully in the present moment is a position of strength from which I can beat this addiction, because being present means I am not caught up in my mind's thoughts and therefore not vulnerable to my addictive thought process.
I have consciously chosen to be present in the midst of bad cravings and the cravings subside. Trouble is, I then allow my mind to go back to porn thoughts, which can give me enough of a spike in dopamine, to set of a severe bout of cravings.
In some ways, my addiction is a gift. It is teaching me the value of having a disciplined mind.