Thanks Broadfield78. It's a good feeling knowing that some people read my posts, I appreciate it.
I've actually been having a whirlwind of a difficult time - with some euphoric moments thrown in. Last Tuesday (2nd January), my half arsed new year's resolutions came crashing down as I worked from home that morning I binged from edging through to PMO on two occasions. And I didn't feel any major trigger per se. It was one of those "it just happened" moments, which of course is no excuse.
This was a BIG rock bottom for me, because it wasn't what has become (over the past months) a minute to fifteen minutes of browsing/edging/soft porn. It was full on dopamine rush like I have not experienced in a very long time, not to mention not one but two masturbations. The following days have been really tough in terms of how it has fucked with my brain, literally.
So I have been trying (and in the best part doing quite well) to manage emotions, fantasies and physical/cognitive shit - like painful testies which I ended up going to the doctor for, as well as terrible concentration and memory, plus horrible fatigue.
But as I mentioned, there have been good moments though, like when I had friends over and drank a bit much and more pertinently when I bonded with my pregnant wife. This is what gets me: The reality of becoming a father is really sinking in, as we approach 9-10 weeks until the baby's due date. Yet, last Tuesday was a horror story as far as escaping from reality (via porn) is concerned.
It is scary how 'it just happens', but hit me hard that I am letting it 'just happen'. In other words, I must work harder to commit to taking pro-active stances to ensure that it simply does not happen! I need to re-frame my reality on a subconscious level, which I guess takes time because I listen to audio meditations from my hypnotherapist frequently!
I've been so out of it that I only just remembered that I had already posted last week after Tuesday's ordeal. It sounds cliche but it is making me more determined to avoid letting this behaviour and all of it's ramifications repeat itself - except I am fully aware that determination is not enough. A strong and committed action plan is the way forward. Plus rebuilding my life, like the following expression:
?The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new.? Socrates.
I have always been inspired by this quote, but never really listened and followed its wisdom. But I want to. I need to because my life really depends on it. I have responsibilities and those that depend on me; the side effects of porn use is damaging me and I want to become a better version of myself. Recovery and healing will take time, and probably some more tough days like today, but back to the basic approach of one day at a time. I just need to internalise and practice my signature below. For those that have come this far, thanks for reading.
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Porn is no longer an option