Day 18
Extremely tired again. Thought I was about due to head back into grumpy antisocial Broccolini mode, but as soon as I got into work and saw Fiona, I effortlessly greeted her with ?I?m greeeeeeeat, how are you?!? And that pretty much set the tone for the rest of the day, despite the tiredness. I deliberately made a big effort to keep eye contact with her whenever I spoke to her and although I found it awkward, I found it so intoxicatingly enjoyable that I was able to keep doing it anyway. Fiona invited me to after work drinks - she wasn?t asking me out or anything, just being friendly. Was too tired to go but it was nice that someone reacted that positively to me. I said I might go next week.
Day 19
Went to lunch with my Mom and brother. Made a strong effort to maintain eye contact with my brother at all times and noticed that he was constantly shifting his gaze. Also noticed how bad his posture is compared to mine now. He looked like a crumpled heap. When mom took a photo of us she said afterwards ?How come Broccolini smiles and you don?t?? I felt kinda bad for him. No idea if he?s fapping but there?s a good chance just based on probability. Made an effort to smile at the waitresses and - imagine my shock -
they actually smiled back! Usually a little sheepishly like they were shy about receiving my attention! It feels sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo gooooooooooooooooooooood when you make a girl blush.
Fapping to pornhub just cannot compare. Our waitress at the first place had a gap in her teeth and a slightly raspy voice - not someone I?d normally consider attractive but all I could notice was what lovely hair and skin she had. Depsite not being conventionally attractive, she still seemed beautiful to me. Such a change in perspective.
Had to do some shopping after that and was in a super-positive mood for the rest of the day. Kind of expecting to crash down at any minute and go right back into super-negative grumpy mode, as has always happened in the past. But no sign of it yet!!?
Day 20
Guys, I can?t....even.....
That?s all I can say. I?m so happy that I just don?t even know how to deal with it. I?ve been making eye contact with everyone and smiling at them.
I was listening to a song earlier (?Tomorrow? from ?Annie? lol) and for some reason it made me super emotional. I had to just lie down and cry tears of joy. For absolutely no reason. That has, like, never happened. The day I got engaged to my ex I wasn?t happy but I am today. I feel a massive overload of sexual energy but it?s all in my chest instead of in my groin. It just makes me want to hug every girl I see and tell her she?s beautiful. I saw a girl in the street jogging - she was a bit overweight and had a plain face but I just wished I could hug her and say ?don?t worry sweetheart, you?re still beautiful. God loves you.? Went to a cafe in the afternoon and gave the waitress a big smile and a cheerful ?thank you so much!? She had purple hair and normally I would have just thought ?Eww, what a freak? but she had a lovely, kind face and she gave me a smile back that melted my heart.
When I left the cafe I said another thank you to her so I could get another smile back. I think I?m addicted to girls? smiles now. XD Maybe if more people smiled at her like that she wouldn?t feel the need for the silly hair.
I?m still severely lacking in confidence and get nervous at the thought of making conversation or confronting people, but hopefully that will change in time. That?s not really bothering me at the moment. Right now the only thing that?s bothering me is I seriously don?t know how to deal with this much happiness, it?s totally foreign to me - definitely a little out of my comfort zone. But oh well, good problem to have!
I should point out that I don?t think this is 100% PMO abstinence - I have also been doing some energy healing work, as well as the Neuroptimal neurofeedback sessions. I?m not sure how much each one has contributed to it but PMO was obviously the missing piece that stopped everything else from falling into place.