So, I'm back after almost half a year of absence from the board. At least absence as in "active posting". I still came here on a more or less regular basis to catch up on the progress of yours. Thanks to everyone who is posting - it's always inspiring!
First I want to say, that I did not dismiss the idea of abstaining from porn and frequent masturbation and I never questioned its benefits. I think, that's important, because, whenever someone vanishes from the board, people might assume, that he has given up on fighting and/or lost his faith in the usefulness of the reboot. And I find that rather discouraging and sad. In the meantime, I never exceeded my longest streak of 55 days. But I also never went back to compulsive porn use. I had my relapses about every 2 weeks and some times of more frequent MOing. But all in all, it was 5 good months.
The 55 days of no porn and the reduced porn/MO period afterwords already led to huge benefits in my life. As I wrote in my first post, I always had a hard time to connect with women emotionally and falling in love. This was really getting to me after 4 years of not feeling much for any girl I've met or been with for some short time. The good news is, I finally fell in love again a few months ago. And I strongly believe, that giving up compulsive porn use played a huge role. Before, I was much more focused on having sex with a girl. And as soon as i fapped to porn, even this drive to interact with women faded away for some time. With porn and fapping I just couldn't keep enough interest to pursue a possible relationship long enough. Even now, after madly falling in love, I noticed my interest in her dropping for about a day after my very rare occasions of PMO in the last months. As long as I stayed "sober" I never questioned that I want to be with her.
Apart from that, I can already say that porn is no part of my personality anymore. For almost two decades not a single day passed without thinking about porn or at least pornrelated sex-scenarios. For example, when I went hiking with my friends, I enjoyed it a lot for a few hours. But then, the thoughts of porn came creeping back into my head and I was looking forward to be back home again to check out some new scenes on my favorite pornsites. I could NEVER enjoy any activity for more than maybe 3 hours without craving porn again. I just realized a few weeks ago, when I went hiking. That I did not think about porn anymore and found it extremely strange that I used to be that way.
So, in 2018 I came to a point where I feel that I have control over my life again, for the first time in ages. But I feel, there's still so much more room to improve. Despite not falling back into binging on porn for several days, PMO always feel like a step back and like wasted time and energy.
I am on day 4 right now and I am planning to make this my best streak ever, finally cracking the 90 days