WEEK ELEVEN
Thanks Bob, nice to have some kind words of support.
The house is very empty, hate it,
I am away on business again this week so checking in here regularly to ensure I don't drift into any old habits. Still see the wife a lot and chat a lot via WhatsApp when away but it is at best friendly .. no warmth or the slightest hint of the love we once had.
I have to refrain from blurting out how much I love her and how sorry I am and every opportunity as I am sure she is tired of it and just makes me look sad and pathetic and very unattractive ... even more than a pants down wanker.
On the plus side karate and studies are going much better! Fit body and fit mind and leave my dick alone.
Trying to meditate each night as well, but that usually is a fat fail as I fall asleep part way through .. least I am sleeping better now.
Everyone's story and journey is different, for me this is not a "reboot" of my sexuality its an off switch. No marital sex .... no porn or masturbation ... and no moving on either, I have never had an affair and I am not about to start now .. I am still married and for me that means for better or worse, in sickness and in health, richer or poorer and forsaking all others (ok we need to update these words for the modern world to include others real or virtual) to death us do part ... or more likely ... divorce.
What ever happens I am sure this process will be good for me in the long term.
every day I wish I could turn back time .... and know then what I know now.
Neural Pathway Reconstruction homework, Pillar 9 ? Investment
I now know the importance of avoiding unhealthy stimuli and choices. I will avoid unhealthy choices. I will avoid unhealthy stimuli. My choices to not avoid these things in the past have contributed to my current place in life. From this point on, as I have the desire to act out I will remember my values and my vision of a better life. I will act accordingly and I will avoid all unhealthy stimuli. I will pay whatever physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual and financial price is necessary to avoid this stimuli and get well. I will do this because I am making the investment in one of the most important creations in the universe ? me. I would choose to walk a thousand miles many times over before I will allow unhealthy stimuli to come into my life again. I will avoid unhealthy stimuli and I will stay well.
I have not only crashed my life into a brick wall but also that of my beloved wife, who is struggling and battling through this with no one to talk too. Fortunately I think the boys have been shielded from most of the drama as the separation has a cover story of moving out due to the builders. But that can only last so long. If I am ever to get another chance I have to be well, if I ever have a weak moment I think back to the day when she caught me, the mess of our lives its caused and the divergent paths ahead, the unwell path is a lonely path with no family and the well path has only hope. Hope is all I have right now and its the path I choose.
https://www.menprovement.com/stop-fapping-jerking-off-and-jacking-off/
http://rebootblueprint.com/10-powerful-benefits-of-quitting-porn/