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Reformed Fapper said:Well theres only one way to find out. Give it a go and see how you feel. You gotta remove weeds at their root, otherwise theyll keep growing back.
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Reformed Fapper said:Well theres only one way to find out. Give it a go and see how you feel. You gotta remove weeds at their root, otherwise theyll keep growing back.
changemylife said:As long as you have a plan and know what to do, relapses may come but, if you learn from them and come up stronger, then it's worth it. Anytime you relapse, think about why and find a plan for how to avoid that. Spending too much time on Internet can be detrimental. We need to stay away from virtual world and start doing things in real world. if we are bored, we must find something normal to do, not wasting time on phones/computers. I'm trying to resume Internet use to what's helpful for me, without wasting hours doing nothing, learning nothing, just wasted time.
it's a tightrope journey where we might fall any moment but we have to built a safety net underneath it and get up again and continue the journey. We must create healthy habits. What normal people do in their lives? That's what we should do as well, not waste our time with artificial stimulation, thinking it "satisfies" us. There is no satisfaction in porn.
changemylife said:Yes, I agree with this. People just want to go days without relapsing but they don't have any plan and don't do anything necessary for changing their lives and making the addiction not be that important in their life. There was a user somewhere on a forum, I don't remember exactly, who said the same thing and it made a tone of sense. I said, "You know, this is exactly what's all about and I'm not doing it right." Because I too just fought to achieve a number of days without relapsing but at the same time I was doing nothing helpful for my fight with the addiction, like finding habits instead of doing nothing and using internet all day, stop using PMO as a form of self-medication, like heroin or something like that, you know what I'm saying? I realized I had to change my life 360 because my lifestyle fueled this addiction big time. I think now I'm doing it right, at least I have the right mindset.
TheGreenWizard said:I've also stopped using PMO or MO as a self-medicating habit when I get stressed or depressed. That's another small victory in this war against addiction. The other day I was stressed out because I had to dig up old info for something that was difficult to find. The old TGW would have ran to PMO to take the edge off and procrastinated. Instead I just grit my teeth, raged, got it done, and went about my business. Things are slowly starting to come together and get better. I'm going to really push to keep that motivation going and double my efforts in fixing the current issues I'm dealing with.
changemylife said:TheGreenWizard said:I've also stopped using PMO or MO as a self-medicating habit when I get stressed or depressed. That's another small victory in this war against addiction. The other day I was stressed out because I had to dig up old info for something that was difficult to find. The old TGW would have ran to PMO to take the edge off and procrastinated. Instead I just grit my teeth, raged, got it done, and went about my business. Things are slowly starting to come together and get better. I'm going to really push to keep that motivation going and double my efforts in fixing the current issues I'm dealing with.
This is outstanding progress, actually. Many of us use PMO as self-medication. Not using it anymore for this definitely feels great. Give yourself a pat on the back like: "Doesn't it feel good to deal with my life like a normal human being instead of self-medicating?" I tell myself this when I go through something hard without using alcohol or PMO. It makes me feel alive.
TheGreenWizard said:changemylife said:TheGreenWizard said:I've also stopped using PMO or MO as a self-medicating habit when I get stressed or depressed. That's another small victory in this war against addiction. The other day I was stressed out because I had to dig up old info for something that was difficult to find. The old TGW would have ran to PMO to take the edge off and procrastinated. Instead I just grit my teeth, raged, got it done, and went about my business. Things are slowly starting to come together and get better. I'm going to really push to keep that motivation going and double my efforts in fixing the current issues I'm dealing with.
This is outstanding progress, actually. Many of us use PMO as self-medication. Not using it anymore for this definitely feels great. Give yourself a pat on the back like: "Doesn't it feel good to deal with my life like a normal human being instead of self-medicating?" I tell myself this when I go through something hard without using alcohol or PMO. It makes me feel alive.
Yeah. It does feel much better than just running to the computer for PMO because it's more productive. Usually if I did that I would just procrastinate too and go on a PMO binder until I was all drained. While dealing with problems is annoying, I feel better about myself when I don't resort to PMO whenever I feel annoyed.
changemylife said:The problems still need to be solved. You run in front of the computer and binge on PMO but you still need to deal with your problems which you can't do it well anymore after draining yourself, physically and mentally with PMO. You motivation, mood, energy... all go out the window.