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workinprogressUK

workinprogressUK

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It's just a little setback but you're right... that POV vid is P and you did M to O. It's just a slip though. Reset, refocus and get back after what really matters to you. Good luck!
 
workinprogressUK

workinprogressUK

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You're made of steel, my man! Next stop..... global peace, re-plant the rainforest and make Cleveland the sports capital of America. Congrats on having so much focus and strength. Try not to stretch yourself too far.... you need to nurture yourself as well as everybody around you. Inspirational stuff, though.
 
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Pcpowder

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Just checking in with you and seeing how things are going.  It looks like its been a rough road with some highs but some but huge lows.  Glad to see that things seem to be heading in the right direction.  Stay tough!
 
workinprogressUK

workinprogressUK

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discobolus said:
I?m trying to get on track with my training. I maxed out on a few lifts this week to see what my strength was like. I?ve not trained for strength in 3 years so expected to be weak. I got 340 on bench press, 550 on a Safety Bar Squat, and deadlifted 495 super easy but missed 585 at knee level so probably good for 570 in my experience. Gonna restart diet, training, and cardio again in earnest tomorrow.
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Great numbers! Especially admiring of your 550 squat. I hope you're packing a whole bag full of relapse prevention juice (if only that existed) for The Arnold. That would be a very challenging environment for me to be in. Wishing you the strength of mind to get through that without too much pain.
 
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BigMog

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Hi discobolus, Sounds like a good idea to get a buddy you can trust to be the password keeper. I agree with not using your wife for that. I asked my wife a few years ago and it only caused distress for both of us, though of course I understand it may work for some couples. I think it?s great that you?re taking the positive step of getting professional help. Good luck.
 
workinprogressUK

workinprogressUK

Well-Known Member
discobolus said:
I activated the Screen Time adult content blocker on my phone. I used some random number sequence I found and then put the number away. I?ll get a friend to change and keep the password soon. I?ve been trying to see what I can access. It looks like I could probably find porn on twitter so I?ll probably add that to the list of blocked sites.
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Great idea. Even better if you have a real-world friend you can share a bit of this with... help keep you straight. I've found that massively valuable.
 
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cranm329

Guest
Hi Discobolus. A thought...could it be that it's not you that's low priority but 'sex as we know it' ?
Hang in there. Hope Tuesday is good for you.
 
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cranm329

Guest
Well done. Glad you've agreed to stay together. Advice: keep talking, disclosing and maintain openness.
 
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J01

Guest
Hope you were able to get your diet and exercise back on track.  Take care!
 
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J01

Guest
That upcoming land purchase sounds amazing-swimming in the creek and the sighting of bears !  Glad to hear about the marriage going well; marital disharmony is not fun!  Keep going and continue to build off of your good start !
 
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J01

Guest
You are off to a great start-nice work.  You are right about triggers-many of them are off-line!

I read Dune last year.  Didn't get into the sequels as much but the first novel itself was awesome.  There is an interesting and fascinating interview with Frank Herbert on youtube. 

Anyway, congratulations on your new commitment and success. 
 
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cranm329

Guest
Well done. My wife is and has been the prime motivator for me to give up the addiction.
 
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Edit_undo

Active Member
Hey, sorry to read you?re having (had) a rough day. I hope you are well- I?m sure you did everything right for your patient. Have a great day.
 
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Sean K.

Member
I know how you feel there....

Unfortunately, my wife gained a bunch of weight from being on depo provera as birth control for several years and just doesn't feel 'attractive' b/c of the weight gain which makes her uncomfortable enough with her body that she doesn't feel 'sexy'.

Sucks.  I mean, don't get me wrong, I'd love for her to lose the weight...but honestly, I'm more concerned about her overall health....not to mention, I love her regardless and miss the physical intimacy.  But...due to her cancer issues, we haven't been having sex regularly for almost a year and a half now. 

Hang in there....

Any chance you guys could start exercising together?  If she loses a little weight....she may start to feel sexier and more interested in trying new/different stuff.

I need to pick your brain about something.  I'll PM you (assuming that's an option). 
 
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Elvis on Velvet

Member
discobolus said:
The 2 year old woke of crying in the middle of the night and while we were awake we looked at my wife?s trip itinerary and noticed her first flight was delayed and she wouldn?t be able to make her flight from Chicago to Paris. So she redid the reservation and is now on the road to the Dallas airport instead of our more local airport which is about 2 hours closer. Because she?s flying out of a different airport she had to change her return flight as well. She won?t be getting back to Dallas until 8 PM Saturday so she?ll spend the night there because it would be dangerous to drive on home so sleep deprived. So me and the boys will have 6 nights on our own. I told her my balls would be filled up when she got home. The urge to look at porn and masturbate will be high while she?s gone but looking forward to unloading 7 days worth when she gets back might keep me motivated.
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Wishing you the best of luck and praying for your strength (and mine).  A lot of what you wrote encourages me.  I also get triggered when I'm home alone, and my wife travels for business sometimes and also just has a lot going on, so she's out of the house often doing stuff with her mom or our daughter. My wife is beautiful and totally game for pretty much anything sexually, so it disgusts me when I find that I have trouble getting aroused by her.  She got a breast augmentation a couple years ago and that made her even better looking, so I try really hard to focus on her and her alone, but my PIED has gotten in the way of our spontaneity.  I have to kind of "plan" sex now because I need to take a pill.  I'm really hoping that I can recover from this, and I hope the same for you.  I'm impressed at your dedication to getting back into shape and I truly hope you succeed.
 
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cranm329

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discobolus said:
The 2 year old woke of crying in the middle of the night and while we were awake we looked at my wife?s trip itinerary and noticed her first flight was delayed and she wouldn?t be able to make her flight from Chicago to Paris. So she redid the reservation and is now on the road to the Dallas airport instead of our more local airport which is about 2 hours closer. Because she?s flying out of a different airport she had to change her return flight as well. She won?t be getting back to Dallas until 8 PM Saturday so she?ll spend the night there because it would be dangerous to drive on home so sleep deprived. So me and the boys will have 6 nights on our own. I told her my balls would be filled up when she got home. The urge to look at porn and masturbate will be high while she?s gone but looking forward to unloading 7 days worth when she gets back might keep me motivated.
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All the best for your week 'alone'.
 
joepanic

joepanic

Respected Member
Congradulations on the week  clean  work on the 10 day goal  than the 2 week goal  I found that has helped somewhat going after small easily obtainable vicotories  I cant remember  does your wife know your in this fight (mine doesnt)  I'm doing quite well on mine at 22 days clean  my nxt victoie it the 1 month mark  so only a week away  Good on you for having regular sex with the wife  continue to work on coping mechanisms  stresss reduction exc

      Cheers

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