Checking in, still clean.
Had a good weekend reconnecting with my wife. It?s been a busy few weeks but we finally got some time alone for a day/night away and it was great fun.
At dinner we had a great connection- really catching up I guess. But I?d consider this the most wholesome form of intimacy. I really love that I can talk with her about anything. Brought her up to speed on where I am now: feeling tense/anxious, so cutting caffeine (that?s a big deal, I love my coffee) and why I think this whole mess including ED is related. Not to blame it on porn, though porn surely wouldn?t help. She is very supportive, understanding and tried to help. We talked a bit about life events that may have shaped who I am today or why I do certain things. Her questions helped because we have very different backgrounds, some of her life experiences are foreign to me and vice-versa. I think a lot of these issues are in my head and I just don?t know how to untangle it all but this felt like progress.
So dinner and drinks were great, and managed some intimacy twice (with ED med). I don?t want to become reliant on meds but it was nice to have that experience again. About the same as before pied, did feel a little different so I?m wondering if the body-brain connection is fried. Or forgotten. I?m considering using meds roughly once a month. Any other time, if the body/brain?s not ready I?ll leave it be.
So back to now: did exercise and meditate today, reduced caffeine for at least 3 days now (decaf or green tea only) and feeling like flat line. No morning wood lately. Sleep is so-so and no triggers.
Had a good weekend reconnecting with my wife. It?s been a busy few weeks but we finally got some time alone for a day/night away and it was great fun.
At dinner we had a great connection- really catching up I guess. But I?d consider this the most wholesome form of intimacy. I really love that I can talk with her about anything. Brought her up to speed on where I am now: feeling tense/anxious, so cutting caffeine (that?s a big deal, I love my coffee) and why I think this whole mess including ED is related. Not to blame it on porn, though porn surely wouldn?t help. She is very supportive, understanding and tried to help. We talked a bit about life events that may have shaped who I am today or why I do certain things. Her questions helped because we have very different backgrounds, some of her life experiences are foreign to me and vice-versa. I think a lot of these issues are in my head and I just don?t know how to untangle it all but this felt like progress.
So dinner and drinks were great, and managed some intimacy twice (with ED med). I don?t want to become reliant on meds but it was nice to have that experience again. About the same as before pied, did feel a little different so I?m wondering if the body-brain connection is fried. Or forgotten. I?m considering using meds roughly once a month. Any other time, if the body/brain?s not ready I?ll leave it be.
So back to now: did exercise and meditate today, reduced caffeine for at least 3 days now (decaf or green tea only) and feeling like flat line. No morning wood lately. Sleep is so-so and no triggers.