@BlueHeronFan: Thanks, I appreciate your continued support! It's really amazing how the addiction can transform in the mind from this horrible thing to such a warm, comforting presence...even within the same day. The truth is, it doesn't really matter what our perception of it is, good or bad; all that matters is doing what is best for present and future selves, %100 percent of the time, no excuses.
@Quitforeverthenwin: Yeah, listening to other peoples stories is super helpful to me too. I've been listening to this Dax Shepherd's (actor, film director) podcast and he mentions all the struggles he's had with drug and alchohol addiction, and how he was never happy even when he had all the money, fame, and opportunity in the world.
- I like the scheduling activities idea; I've been playing basketball with some people from time to time but I'm going to start to try to do it more frequently. I also think I'm gunna schedule chamber music reading (I play violin) parties with alchohol which can be fun lol
- I usually am okay being alone, sometime it just hits me hard because I feel like I'm stuck in a cycle of being alone, but I know I am just creating a storyline in my mind that will allow me to feel sorry for myself. I'll definitely try to do better in this area
I feel good today, have been thinking alot about how I define success and what I rely on for happiness. I kind of realized that I am way too dependent on feedback from people and things around me. Like, if I try my best, then I should be satisfied with myself no matter the outcome right? Of course "trying my best" means no PMO, no fantasizing, that's definitely a good start...but it also means so much more; like being compassionate, kind, motivational, funny, while also encouraging others to think outside the box. Right now I am figuring out the best way to do these things (and more), but I must remind myself to never give up. The things that happen outside of my control don't even matter though, because every time I try and dont get what I hope for expect out of my effort, I will still be evolving, learning, becoming a stronger and better man. I think if I just focus on becoming a better person in all facets of life, getting over the addiction will be so much easier.
Another random thought...I feel like I will never be 100% confident that I will never watch P again. From a logical standpoint, I will live for another 60 years on average and will have constant access to the internet, with many hardships and depressing times to come. I think reminding myself that I can go back at literally any time scares me just a little bit, in a good, motivational way; Do I want an increasing amount of laziness, complacency, anxiety, and depression? If I choose PMO, that's what I'll have to live with. Hopefully through time I can be 99% confident I will never go back, with the knowledge that it still lingers, even as a tiny spec in the mind