squid said:Hey Ender, how's it going?
squid said:Urinate
squid said:Here are some ideas:
Make an emergency journal post and write down everything you are feeling
Run the stairs or do another form on high intense exercise
Urinate
Turn off your electronics
Read a book
Call a friend or relative
And always remember, the feeling of urge will pass before you know it, and you'll smile inside for staying true to yourself.
BlueHeronFan said:squid said:Urinate
All of squid's ideas are spot on, but I just wanted to second this one because it sounds weird but is totally true. There are times when I think I have the strongest urge to MO, but it's just because I need to go to the bathroom.
These urges are awful, and I'm sorry to hear that they're keeping you up. I know I'm more of a zombie when the urges get bad, just doing what I need to do to get through a day. It's awesome that you're posting to keep yourself committed to this process, keep doing it!
It used to be that I relapsed hard whenever the urges got strong. I used to think that my goal was to quit having urges, and I always thought I was failing when the urges came back. But I really turned a corner the first time I actually made it through a couple days of really intense urges. I learned that they do eventually pass (it doesn't just keep getting worse and worse until the day you die). I also learned that I can, in fact, experience urges without having to act on them. Sort of obvious, but it was like a revelation to experience it for the first time.
Hold strong, man. I think one of the most powerful things you can do is make it through the wave. Once you experience firsthand that the urges eventually quit and that you can survive them, I think you will have proven to yourself that living in recovery is really possible.
Ender said:This was an actual conversation I had with myself while I was struggling with my temptations. For me, humor helps me cope with my recovery. I hope it helps you.
P: Hey, remember this video? *p flashback*
Me: Fuck off P
P: Fine, what about this one? It's softcore so it doesn't count.
Me: No, that's still porn. Not going to happen.
P: Okay, well what about a nice, juicy fantasy. You know, just to keep your imagination sharp.
Me: Nice try. And while someday, I would like to fantasize again, I am a long way from that day. I can't trust a porn sick brain to have healthy fantasies.
P: Jesus you are being difficult. What if you write a character for one of your little stories and put her in some sexual situations?
Me: *insert Rick and Morty Extra Steps Meme here* Well that just sounds like porn with extra steps.
At that point, I had myself belly laughing and it broke most the temptation. Also, I tried to make an actual meme of this to post here, but I am having trouble attaching an image to my post even though it is small enough.
Ender said:I do want to note just how aroused I became at the mere thought of looking at porn. Like, no sexual images in my head, just the IDEA of porn had my heart racing. Like what the fuck?! Am I really that conditioned? That was upsetting but just more encouragement to get clean.
Lero said:Good reflections, man. By the way, can you actually rename the journal? How? Cause I don't know how to do it.
Ender said:Go to your first post and click on the Modify button (it's next to the Quote button). It should open a page that looks like a new post except it is already filled out. From there, I just changed the Subject line and clicked Save.
Lero said:Ender said:Oh shit, man! I had no idea. How did you know?
I was playing around with the forum a lot last night when I tried to post that meme. Figuring out how to Modify a post was one of the tricks I figured out.