Ender said:So I couldn't sleep (shocker) but I haven't been wasting my time. I was reading some other journals and success stories on here and had an epiphany. I realized, from others sharing the same experience, that I used porn, and my other addictions, to replace the love I wasn't giving myself. It's easy to blame my parents for not raising me in a loving manner that enabled me to love myself, but also pointless. That chapter of my life is over. This chapter is about finding the love I missed out on in my own self. I've decided that the focus of my recovery is going to be on self love.
This revelation also showed me a huge mistake I had made. For example, by calling my addiction a "demon" I had turned it into something awful and evil. This label justified unleashing anger and hatred on it. But it's a part of me. And that anger and hatred is only going to rebound and cripple me and prevent me from loving myself, all of myself. Just as Lero said several posts up, we aren't addicted to porn, but to the dopamine it produces. Dopamine isn't evil, it's not a demon, it doesn't mean us any harm. And the more I learn about the dopamine reward system, the more beautiful I find it. Once this system has healed from my addictions, I'll be able to redirect it to achieve untold heights. So with this new information, I have decided to rename my addictions from "demon" to "dragon". Dopamine is a mighty force in our lives, but neither good nor evil. It simply drives us where we direct it. Unfortunately, most of our dragons were hijacked in some way and taken off course. But the solution is not to beat that dragon back into submission, but come to understand its power and beauty. To love this powerful creature and work hand-in-hand as companions. That's my dream for myself. And that's also way I renamed this journal and will no longer be using the word demon.
Well done sir, that is a great perspective