I want to be as i was when i was a kid (The PMO hatas)

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Arthur, have you figured the quotes yet? You have to write at the beginning and end of what you want to appear as quote, in that blue stuff. Then you write your reply under it.
 
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Arthur2 said:
But this is silly of course because

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As a result of that mindset, i have many times binged in one night after a relapse a number of times equal to the days of abstinence prior to that, which makes me at the end of the day have on average one fap a day, as i pretty much had my entire life.
So the streak was compensated by the bibging.
Shame and failure. But at least in those occasion i have learned.

Definitely. You binge and end up screwing up your progress. Let's say you stood away from PMO for 7 days then you PMO 7 times. Doing it once is actually less damage and you could get back on track easier. I'm not saying you have to PMO at all but, you still did it, once is better than 7. My example with the hammer and the finger is actually a good thing to keep in mind, without further explanations and questions. "I won't do it more than once cause more than once is more damage. More blows to the brain."


 

Arthur2

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Arthur, have you figured the quotes yet? You have to write at the beginning and end of what you want to appear as quote, in that blue stuff. Then you write your reply under it. [quote\]
 
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You have to put "/" at the beginning of "quote", not at the end.
 

Arthur2

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Arthur, have you figured the quotes yet? You have to write at the beginning and end of what you want to appear as quote, in that blue stuff. Then you write your reply under it. [quote\]

Yes thank you Lero. I was just not using the right "slash" to close the quotation.

Milestone day 7 succesfully passed here.
I think i have been in some kind of flatline today, unless it is just general fatigue.
I have been busy but i remain aware that i walk on a narrow bridge, and i could fall if i start looking in the abyss beneath.
I am fully aware that i could relapse if i am not careful, but right now i am doing pretty good.
It is not the time to dwell on thoughts.

Been staying bus today.

To night i am very tired.
I expect no fap to give me more energy in the future.

Thank you for the support.

God bless you in your journey.

Haha thank you you just posted it while i was writting.
 

Arthur2

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You can edit the post.

Da woud be cheatin.  ;D  (jkn of course)

No one can edit the past. Life is not a video game where we can just save game and then load game when we mess up. Down here on earth when we mess up we mess up forever and we may and we can and we should get back on our feet and learn from our mistakes but the scar remains. One more reason to not relapse and lose x amount of days again.

Even though by mistake we learn and go further, it is better to learn from other people' s mistakes. That is why this forum is helpful. I don' t have time to read everything obviously and answer to everything but many times i read things and i want to comment "Yes ! Absolutly ! Very true, thank you for pinpointing something that i needed to see."



 

Arthur2

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Day 8 achieved.

succesfully moving forward on cruise control here.

So far it has been a very smooth journey to be honest, compared to my other streaks. Not many cravings. Probably because i have been very busy and social. But i know from experience that the danger is always just around the corner.

This journal has helped a lot.

Thank you everybody for all the advice that are found in your journals.

Today and yesterday i really felt social anxiety benefits, and even though i am not a very anxious person usually, i still felt improvement in this area with the different interactions that i had with people today and yesterday.

From the testimonies that i read, i acknowledge that my addiction is actually really not that bad.

But still, getting rid of it will make me have tremendous benefits i am convinced of this fact.
And i was still fapping once a day on average to be honest so that is way to many Os.

Arthur, smoothly sailing on day 8 waters.
 

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And also i noticed today an increasing desire in me to date a girl. Not for S but for interaction with the feminine outlook on life.

I know i will love and value wimen more and more on nofap, without being needy or intimidated about them. This i think is one of the greatest benefits : becoming more masculine and so becoming more attracted and ready to be a true reliable boyfriend to a girlfriend.

With nofap you can become the man that deserves a relationship with a woman, and you become the man that wants a relationship. Not because he is needy but because he is manly.

I love it !
 

Arthur2

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And i feel more social overall.

I can look people in the eyes and i know that i am in control of myself.
 

Arthur2

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Day 9 over.

I have little time. I' ll probably get back tonight to the website to read other journals.

But now i just wanted to mention that my day has been great, i have been socializing a lot but on my way back home i started have thoughts about certain pictures that are very arousing to me, and it reminded me back in the days when i used to be more sad, i was watching more porn and sometimes on my way home from work i was so hurried to get back home with all those thought of PMO in my head, and i remember feeling strongly compelled and helpless to watch porn.

I used to be heavily addicted.

Back then i couldn' t wait to be home and binge.

I am still addicted but a little less now than i used to be. Yet still addicted and in danger of relapse.

Today i have something similar, a great desire to be at home and binge, and it is my first real trial on this journey, because so far i hav' nt faced really strong temptations. To night is my worst one i am fighting on this streak.
I am not having an erection but my brain wants to look at those images and make the excuse of hey i ll just look at them but not fap. My prefrontal cortex knows where it ends...

But i am not going to yield to this one.

I am going to go exercise right now before it gets dark.
 
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Arthur2 said:
Day 9 over.

I have little time. I' ll probably get back tonight to the website to read other journals.

But now i just wanted to mention that my day has been great, i have been socializing a lot but on my way back home i started have thoughts about certain pictures that are very arousing to me, and it reminded me back in the days when i used to be more sad, i was watching more porn and sometimes on my way home from work i was so hurried to get back home with all those thought of PMO in my head, and i remember feeling strongly compelled and helpless to watch porn.

I used to be heavily addicted.

Back then i couldn' t wait to be home and binge.

I am still addicted but a little less now than i used to be. Yet still addicted and in danger of relapse.

Today i have something similar, a great desire to be at home and binge, and it is my first real trial on this journey, because so far i hav' nt faced really strong temptations. To night is my worst one i am fighting on this streak.
I am not having an erection but my brain wants to look at those images and make the excuse of hey i ll just look at them but not fap. My prefrontal cortex knows where it ends...

But i am not going to yield to this one.

I am going to go exercise right now before it gets dark.

That's right, man. I have a similar story too. When I was in school, I started already thinking about what P to watch when I got home. It was my "soothing", you know what I'm saying? Like my soothing after a hard day. The idea is, we are not addicted porn, we are addicted to the feeling that the dopamine produces. Porn is just the button we push to facilitate this dopamine release. We trained ourselves like that. Others do it by playing video games, others do it with junk food etc. Even sex can become an addiction (sex addiction or whatever it's called but it's a different thing that porn addiction). We chose to hijack the biggest natural reward available to man: The sexual pathway in the brain. It helped me to make this distinction: I am not addicted to porn, I am addicted to the dopamine hit that it creates. It helped me look at porn with different eyes. It can't really be explained, you have to experience it yourself but it might help.
 

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It helped me to make this distinction: I am not addicted to porn, I am addicted to the dopamine hit that it creates. It helped me look at porn with different eyes. It can't really be explained, you have to experience it yourself but it might help.

Interresting.

Could it be that battling other sources of artificial dopamine would also help to battle the P addiction because it would train us to be more sober overall and more strong to resist urges ?
 
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Arthur2 said:
Interresting.

Could it be that battling other sources of artificial dopamine would also help to battle the P addiction because it would train us to be more sober overall and more strong to resist urges ?

I've no idea. I'd like to find out the answer for this question too.
 
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Difficult days could come. From day 7 to day 21, I fought hard urges and craving for porn.
 

Arthur2

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Day 11 over.

What a horrible day !
From yesterday night until now i have edged constantly ! As soon as i had urges for watching porn i did watch it ! It is such a shame.

But thank God i havn' t relapsed and orgasm, so i believe all my benefits are still here, but as far as rebooting is concerned, it is a step back.

I knew such urges were gonna come and today i wasn' t able to battle them efficiently.
It is horrible because now i have cravings for those new images that i have discovered, and i probably will have those new cravings for a long time, until i fap to it a consistent amount of times.
But i won't do it ! I am sick and tired of being in the same place for year and to have all those years wasted.
I want that "do or die" mentality !

The thing is that i "love" watching those images ! They are so beautiful. If i didn' t loved it i wouldn' t watch them.

I don' t have that repulsion that i should, but i know what it does to me if i go all the way and by willpower i have been able to not orgasm this time but i have been close. I know i won' t succed on the long run if i can't handle the temporary discomfort.

I feel like i am so much weaker than some of the men on this forum, because when i have urges they are not even that strong, and they get the best of me.
I don' want to let yall down.
If i fail this time i will feel so bad because with the journal i should be able to make it this time.
The thing is that i hate suffering (you must be thinking : who doesn' t ?).

I repeat that i havn t relapsed in the sense of orgasm but i have edged a lot, and now i have to battle against those new images implanted in my head.

I am really addicted because i was seeking for new content. My brain was kinda sneakin on me while i was confident and at ease with the journey, and attacked me with a tough storm.

The last few days i have been very confident because i havnt had really strong urges, but my brain just started to panic and realize that we were lacking our dose. If i were to relapse now i would binge like a freakn maniac.

I won't restart my clock to day 0 because for me what counts is to not orgasm, but i know it has been a big step back.

Be courageous.

Arthur, weak fapstronaut in danger.
 
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