I'm sorry to be the bad guy who brings you the bad news but edging is what you are addicted to. Edging takes the urges and creates this super pleasurable arousal that you love so much (and me too and everybody else actually). But it's even more damaging than an orgasm because, if you edge for a long period of time, you keep the dopamine high, hitting the dopamine receptors continously. It's abundance of dopamine. You literally "fry yourself up like a chicken in the pan". It's one thing to start watching porn, start masturbating, orgasm in 10 minutes and leave, and another thing to start watching porn and edge to it for hours.
I loved to edge to porn. Nothing made me feel better than this. I used to edge so much until I emptied the "arousal tank" (as I like to call it) and became completely drained and asexual. Nothing turned me on anymore after those hours of edging and the orgasm became just a way to put an end to that, I ejaculated in a plastic cup (that I used only for that and then I washed) but the orgasm didn't make me feel anything anymore. So don't congratulate yourself that you didn't orgasm, you've relapsed already on a tone of edging. I used to say the same. I had a period of time in the past when I thought I didn't relapse as long as I didn't orgasm, but the orgasm was actually nothing in comparison to the tones of edging I was doing (which also included watching a lot of porn so...).
You are not weak, you are an addict. All addicts have a hard time with their addiction. Until everything is ready for you, the addiction will give you hell. I was there, I was powerless, I thought I couldn't do it. But 23 days ago, everything became ready for me. I put together all the pieces of puzzle and everything unfolded in front of me. You see, I've been fighting against this shit for years. But they haven't been in vain. I've been doing a lot of analysis: "How do I relapse? What makes me relapse? What mistakes do I make? What are my triggers?" etc. I've eliminated, step by step, all the obstacles that stood in front of me and my recovery: Watching porn, watching/looking at porn substitutes, masturbating to porn flashbacks and porn induced fantasies, edging to "light stuff", and the last thing that I had to eliminate was this mentality: "The urges are killing me, it's too hard, let me lower them a little bit by edging for just 5 minutes to something light, like pictures. It's too little to affect me that much." It was not true, this mentality has caused me to relapse constantly for 2 months on this forum. I finally eliminated that too and everything started happening. Why? Because no matter how hard the urges got, I stood away from looking deliberately at any porn material. You see, you don't deal with urges by engaging in porn behavior (watching/looking at stuff, edging to it). Urges are the withdrawal that you must go through in order to be no more an addict. If you don't feed your addiction, you starve it until it leaves you alone. Constantly feeding your addiction keeps it present in your life. It's like a fire that you must leave it alone until it extinguishes itself. Edging is like throwing gas on it.
"So what do you want me to do, man? The urges are killing me! What do you really want me to do, seriously!" This is a pertinent scolding for me but listen, you don't deal with urges by searching for porn material. There is nothing that actually makes the urges go away, only time. Time is the only thing that does this. Day after day until the streak gets bigger and urges get weaker. Unfortunately, there is no magic pill, only starving the addiction for a long period of time. I have 23 days already and starting with day 7 until day 21 urges tortured me. I stood away from searching for any porn material, I starved the fucking addiction. For 2 days I haven't had urges anymore. Some people say you could take cold showers, it helps with urges. Some say exercise helps with urges (and I agree, I've seen it myself). But the only thing that takes the urges away completely (and the big, insatiable, violent craving for dopamine) is time.
You see, we are not addicted to porn, we are addicted to that amazing feeling that the dopamine hit gives us. Porn is just the button that we push to release that dopamine. If watching porn didn't release any dopamine, we would stop watching in the next second. Don't think about porn when you crave dopamine. Thing about the dopamine itself. Visualize the dopamine like a color or something. Maybe look at a picture with some neurons and visualize that. Say to yourself: "I have hard urges, I'm craving that dopamine, not porn. Porn only makes the dopamine explode."
Also, after using porn for years, we inevitably start using it as a form of soothing/self-medication/anti-depressant/coping type of thing. This is something else to watch out. If you've been using porn to deal with stress, rejections, boredom, anxiety etc. pay attention to it. The solution is the same: You don't search for any porn material. It's time to deal with those things like normal human beings do, not medicating with porn. Pay attention to the addiction's voice. Identify the impulse to search for porn and stop right there, don't escalate. Say to yourself: "Ah, no, you want me to search for porn but I'm starving you, did you forget already?"
Anyway, man I didn't want this text to get this long. It's a lot to read. Good luck with your recovery, I'm with you, man.