Day 6, NoPMO (November 09, 2020)
Hey all! I'm back! Thank you for all the encouragements and messages of concern I've received. I am doing fine. I'll explain what happened in a few minutes.
And yes, the capslock are orders from the commander, jcsplw and luchness. You should follow them to avoid getting in trouble.
Recovery Process
On the morning of November 3rd, I relapsed which marked the end of my No Nut November journey but of course, not of my NoPMO Life odyssey. This is but one chapter of a lifelong story. What happened was I relapsed because I had some sort of chaser effect from the relapsed I had two days prior on November 1st. I had flashbacks of the porn I watched on Twitter which is a site that is such a trigger for me.
Twitter and Snapchat are potential pitfalls for me which they did on the recent and last relapse I had. I had been rationalizing so hard with my brain that I need to keep these apps and they're okay as long as I manage them right but I know deep down they're not. Twitter can be very sneaky with the potential videos you might see due to it's policy on sex workers, and Snapchat is. . . snapchat. It's nudes galore and I need to stop going here. Admittedly, I like taking nudes myself hahaha. Maybe a combination of the seemingly bigger and fuller dck plus the results of my workouts showing up but I know I should be not here during the reboot process.
I am thankful that I relapsed though because I finally had a strong reason to uninstall these apps. The taking of nude pictures have to stop too unfortunately at least for the next few months of my reboot and up until I find a loving partner or the love of my life. That's okay too.
The takeaway from all this are:
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Stop being overconfident - I need to stop rationalizing potential pitfalls for relapses when I know deep down that they're bad for me. Willpower is limited. Willpower is exhausting. It's better to fight something that is not super accessible compared fo something that's one click away.
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Be patient! - I can become so impatient with progress to the point that I would end up sabotaging myself - Knowing that it takes time and hardwork to see results is always a good albeit a hard reminder. Nothing that's worth having comes easy.
Being impatient is also what causes the overconfidence. It feeds the PMO voice inside your head saying, "c'mon bro. you're definitely healed. just one session isn't bad."
Sexual frustration is probably the cause of impatience but it's hard to get laid nowadays anyway because of the pandemic. I need to keep reminding myself that that time will come and the more I stay on this path, the better that end result will be. [/list]
Now that I've gotten rid of those two apps, I can say that not only have I gotten less urge to surf on them for hours, I also had more time in my hands. YouTube usage is also going down a bit. The one week break from all screens helped a little with productivity and getting things done too especially with my art. I feel like I've improved and learned new things.
Anyways,
PORN IS NOT AN OPTION.
PMO IS NOT AN OPTION.
IMPATIENCE IS NOT AN OPTION.
OVERCONFIDENCE IS NOT AN OPTION.
Nudes is not option?? HAHAHAHAHA lol