Aussie_85 said:Day: 29
Feeling it today.
I'm definitely becoming more depressed each day, the lack of sleep from withdrawal insomnia and looking after a new born baby is killing me. I've had 3 hours sleep in 24 hours. Really starting to get de-ja-vu from 2012, of all the withdrawal symptoms - insomnia is by far the worst. I get through every slow ass boring day...only to not be able to sleep - it just makes it so much harder.
The daunting fact that I'm still so early into the reboot is also pissing me of - although still proud of myself. Getting quite irritated today over nothing in general. I've been waiting for my iPhone 12 pro to be delivered, and the fucking asshole delivery driver didn't even ring the doorbell, just left a card in the letterbox so i have to go and pick it up - a minor annoyance, i wanted to fuck the guy up...i just felt that anger inside.
That's it.
OMG Auspost is the worst! There are epic threads on /australia reddit sub where people bitch about how they do this kind of crap. I sympathise man hahaAussie_85 said:Day: 29
Feeling it today.
I'm definitely becoming more depressed each day, the lack of sleep from withdrawal insomnia and looking after a new born baby is killing me. I've had 3 hours sleep in 24 hours. Really starting to get de-ja-vu from 2012, of all the withdrawal symptoms - insomnia is by far the worst. I get through every slow ass boring day...only to not be able to sleep - it just makes it so much harder.
The daunting fact that I'm still so early into the reboot is also pissing me of - although still proud of myself. Getting quite irritated today over nothing in general. I've been waiting for my iPhone 12 pro to be delivered, and the fucking asshole delivery driver didn't even ring the doorbell, just left a card in the letterbox so i have to go and pick it up - a minor annoyance, i wanted to fuck the guy up...i just felt that anger inside.
That's it.
Aussie_85 said:Day: 33
Had a tough day/night - I think my daughter has colic or something that's effecting her stomach because she's so hard to settle - literally screaming for hours, my ears are sore. New borns are supposed to be fed every 4 hours or so, on face value that sounds straight forward, it's not. If she only has half her feed, she's awake in an hour screaming - then its changing nappies, more screaming - asleep for 3 hours, repeat. Have an appt. with our doctor on Tuesday to hopefully get it sorted, its nothing serious but the fact that she's so unsettled isn't normal.
Having fights with my GF the last 3 days, man she really knows how to piss me off. We are both exhausted and stressed although her way of dealing with stress is blaming me. She just oozes this attitude and body language of being super angry at me, and when i try to talk to her she just starts blaming me for everything - women. I sometimes battle with thoughts of "have i made a mistake having a child with this woman". I don't think i have, she can just be such a bitch sometimes.
It's a struggle for me to not "have" porn in times of stress, usually it's exactly what I turn to for escaping negative emotions. I know that my issues are....well mine, and I have no one to blame, however i do feel like a lot of people are so selfish, completely disregarding how what they say and do to others effects that person. This isn't a pity party or a paranoid observation out of anger, people for the most part just don't care - family, GF's & "friends" - I often have this gut feeling that it's all so fake. That if a situation presented they would have no problem at all just forgetting about me and moving on as if I never existed. I've always felt very emotionally tuned in to other people, I don't think or get the feeling that many people in my life are the same.
I've has these feelings for as long as I can remember, that I really can't rely on anyone - there's many philosophical people who feel the same way - that in a sense, the human condition is selfish, myself included.
I wish I could just not be so observant and be like all the other sheep.
Also to re-iterate Do not wait until you have a baby to reboot, it takes it to a whole new level of suck.
That's all for now - Aussie.
Aussie_85 said:Hey AK,
Oh man it's straining big time : sorry to hear about your wife with post partum depression, that would have been hard. We have her on "infacol" an OTC that really doesn't seem to be doing anything. Tried 3 different formulas - GF can't produce breast milk.
I hope this doesn't trigger anyone but since having the experience of having a baby, women's sexual organs have taken on a different meaning to me - it's now a vagina, and breasts...instead of a P**** and T****.
It's 2:43 AM, she was fed over an hour ago and is still wide awake, in her rocker - after I've been cradling her for 45 mins whispering "shhhh" with white noise in the background.
This is fucking brutal ;D
All part of the adventure I guess.
akpal2 said:I know someone who used to put their kid in the infant car seat and took a drive around which made the kid sleep. My wife used to put the kid in a stroller and then do a backward and forward motion to get her to sleep. Sometimes up to and hour. It was exhausting. But you might have to try different things. Sorry to hear that it isn't going too well atm but hang in there and keep trying different things.
Also, have you tried swaddle blankets? They seem to be very helpful in my experience.
Hey man,Aussie_85 said:Day: 33
Had a tough day/night - I think my daughter has colic or something that's effecting her stomach because she's so hard to settle - literally screaming for hours, my ears are sore. New borns are supposed to be fed every 4 hours or so, on face value that sounds straight forward, it's not. If she only has half her feed, she's awake in an hour screaming - then its changing nappies, more screaming - asleep for 3 hours, repeat. Have an appt. with our doctor on Tuesday to hopefully get it sorted, its nothing serious but the fact that she's so unsettled isn't normal.
Having fights with my GF the last 3 days, man she really knows how to piss me off. We are both exhausted and stressed although her way of dealing with stress is blaming me. She just oozes this attitude and body language of being super angry at me, and when i try to talk to her she just starts blaming me for everything - women. I sometimes battle with thoughts of "have i made a mistake having a child with this woman". I don't think i have, she can just be such a bitch sometimes.
It's a struggle for me to not "have" porn in times of stress, usually it's exactly what I turn to for escaping negative emotions. I know that my issues are....well mine, and I have no one to blame, however i do feel like a lot of people are so selfish, completely disregarding how what they say and do to others effects that person. This isn't a pity party or a paranoid observation out of anger, people for the most part just don't care - family, GF's & "friends" - I often have this gut feeling that it's all so fake. That if a situation presented they would have no problem at all just forgetting about me and moving on as if I never existed. I've always felt very emotionally tuned in to other people, I don't think or get the feeling that many people in my life are the same.
I've has these feelings for as long as I can remember, that I really can't rely on anyone - there's many philosophical people who feel the same way - that in a sense, the human condition is selfish, myself included.
I wish I could just not be so observant and be like all the other sheep.
Also to re-iterate Do not wait until you have a baby to reboot, it takes it to a whole new level of suck.
That's all for now - Aussie.
Bilbo Baggins said:Hey man,
I know what you mean, my girlfriend does that too. It seems to me it?s what they call projection: when you don?t feel good, you try to hurt objects or people around you. Yeah, it?s probably fairly common. Happily, my girlfriend is aware that she does that sometimes, so she?s working on it, she tries to stop doing that. But yeah, it?s a really shitty behavior. We all have ways to deal with stress and unhappiness, that?s just one of them. It doesn?t mean anything, it?s just an emotional reaction. I?m sure your girlfriend would realize a few things if you had the chance to talk to her about this.
Keep it up, man. You?re having rough weeks, but it will pass.