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[Stiffy999]

Hello guys.

I've been on this forum for five years, but besides reporting my weekly progress. The other kind of stories here seem to be those 'success stories'. But what I want to ask you all is something that I haven't seen being asked: what does it feel like to be a porn addict?

I'll start off with myself. I first saw porn when I was 11 and I found my first (hardcore) tubs side at 12. Fifteen years later I'm still on this road. I've had to hide my addiction ever since I got hooked.

I couldn't ask girls over because I felt they'd somehow be able to tell that I had porn addiction and that I thought about sex all the time. I also thought that if I asked girls over, my parents would also start to think about sex-related stuff and I was terrified they'd find out. Actually I think they did find out, but they just didn't tell me. They did ask me once by hinting about it, but of course I denied everything.

But ever since I've had to hide my addiction. I've told one friend, but I still feel abnormal. I know all men watch porn, but not as much as I used to. The longest streak of no PMO I've had was 51 days and the most recent streak was 8 days.

Would be interesting to hear how porn has affected your life and whether you feel as trapped as I do. Well not trapped, but I feel somehow branded, like you'll always be a porn addict. (Yes I know what some guys say that you're going to forever be an addict, but I don't believe in that mindset). Do you guys think about that as well?

Well my friend,every addiction can be altered because brain can easily be changed and it is scientifically proven so that brosience about staying addict forever is just bullshit.51 days longest streak in 5 years is really nothing basically like you are on day 0.I've just recently answered to one thread similar to yours so you could read it if you are interested because I would suggest you all the same as there: https://forum.rebootnation.org/index.php?threads/20781/
Sorry if I was rude but really bro 5 years and you are still not close to beating the addiction you need to make some lifestyle changes as quickly as possible !!!
Best of luck and stay strong

 

[Stiffy999]

Yeah, good points both here and in the other thread. I have installed content blockers on my computers, now I set a time limit on my wifi router so that there will be no internet between 11 pm and 6 am. That helped me to make it to 51 days. And I've also had several streaks of 30 days, so I've been clean for six months in total, but I do hear you when you say that that's not a lot, but it's something.

I'm not sure whether I'll be able to make any drastic life-style changes because I have a moderate physical disability, but I guess I can always go away from the computer to read a book. Or do something else on the computer, I do plenty of productive things online. But I should definitely try abstaining from porn, because on day 51 I noticed stronger erections and that's something to fight for. I've just got to keep the faith that I'll be able to find myself a girlfriend.

Fingers crossed that turning off the router will help because I tend to relapse at night.

Don't give up my friend I know you can do it.You need to put this in your head:"PORN IS NOT AN OPTION EVER!!!" and what helped me was that i wrote a list of all the horrible things porn brought into my life and every time I was tempted to watch it I just read the list and think about it until I relax(also I found extremely hopeful not to lay down a lot because it kinda makes you hornier if that makes any sense).Yeah,also if you want to fall asleep as fast as possible try the combination of chamomile and lavander tea-that combination is amazing believe me.Best of luck my friend you can get your life back !

 

[Stiffy999]

I came up with 28 cons and 4 pros (not including PMO itself). Thanks for the idea! I don't know about tea, but I do take melatonin tablets when I have a hard time falling asleep. Works like a charm.

Focus on the cons,because the pros such as easier falling asleep,relieving the stress,learning new positions,killing boredom and so on are all things that you can achieve with your partner when you get your sexual function back.So in my opinion there are 0 pros to watching pornography!
Do try the tea it is amazing and much healthier for your body than medication and does the same thing.

 

[canguro]

I agree with stiffy that there are no pros to porn. Everything that looks like a pro at first view will turn out to be a con when you really think about it. For example it may help you relieve stress, but on the long run you will never be able to deal with stress better or have less stress in your life. Instead you will just numb yourself and create more problems.

 

[canguro]

Yeah, to be honest, often forplay in P is only for men and not really to pleasure the woman, so I think it's a pretty big con for all those teens who have no experience sex and think this P stuff is what woman like...
And I mean you don't really need P to figure out you could use your tongue or whatever.
It would be much more benefical if people just learned what they like or don't instead of guys thinking they are pros because they have seen stuff in P and recreate it.
Anatomy? Yeah maybe, but it's not like you couldn't learn this a more healthy way =)

 

[Fappy]

there are absolutely no pros at all to PMO. if you find any its just the addicted part of your brain tricking you into feeding it. you need to starve it, not feed it.