52 days.
I had it easy for a while. Honestly for the past month or so my urges have been so minimal that I honestly started to believe it was over. I got cocky. The last two nights I guess the addiction has decided to fight back a little.
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night again, and started to M again. It didn't last long before I stopped. But then, for the first time in a long time, I had a real, strong urge to look at P. It's been so long I had forgotten what it feels like and how to shut it down immediately. I got out of my bed, walked to my phone in the kitchen, and googled something. What I googled was a search term that I was pretty sure would turn up non nude, non sex images, but images meant to titillate. But my brain was sort of hoping I was wrong, that I would have that one image come up that would be nude and give me the excuse to go for it. Fortunately that did not happen. I scrolled for maybe 10-15 seconds, clicked into one or two images on google that obviously didn't satisfy the P urge and then came to the decision point.
I've been in this movie before. The scene where I decide whether to alter my search term to get to the real porn came. It's the same scene that has broken many many of my streaks (none so long as this one) in the past.
I closed the browser, set down my phone, and went back to bed. I am glad I made the right decision but I'm going to be honest, the last two nights have scared the hell out of me.
I need to figure out why my sleep was gone bad the last couple of nights. I have some theories. But more importantly, the last two nights were warning shots that it's not over yet. I got overconfident. I forgot some of what got me here.
Fundamentally, what helped me get here was remembering the following:
Porn only relieves the symptoms it creates
Porn gives me nothing but takes everything
Porn does not give me what I want, an actual women with me
I don't have to do what my brain tells me to do
All of that is just as true as when I was dealing with strong urges in the last few weeks, it's just easy to forget about when things are going well. I remember now.
I had it easy for a while. Honestly for the past month or so my urges have been so minimal that I honestly started to believe it was over. I got cocky. The last two nights I guess the addiction has decided to fight back a little.
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night again, and started to M again. It didn't last long before I stopped. But then, for the first time in a long time, I had a real, strong urge to look at P. It's been so long I had forgotten what it feels like and how to shut it down immediately. I got out of my bed, walked to my phone in the kitchen, and googled something. What I googled was a search term that I was pretty sure would turn up non nude, non sex images, but images meant to titillate. But my brain was sort of hoping I was wrong, that I would have that one image come up that would be nude and give me the excuse to go for it. Fortunately that did not happen. I scrolled for maybe 10-15 seconds, clicked into one or two images on google that obviously didn't satisfy the P urge and then came to the decision point.
I've been in this movie before. The scene where I decide whether to alter my search term to get to the real porn came. It's the same scene that has broken many many of my streaks (none so long as this one) in the past.
I closed the browser, set down my phone, and went back to bed. I am glad I made the right decision but I'm going to be honest, the last two nights have scared the hell out of me.
I need to figure out why my sleep was gone bad the last couple of nights. I have some theories. But more importantly, the last two nights were warning shots that it's not over yet. I got overconfident. I forgot some of what got me here.
Fundamentally, what helped me get here was remembering the following:
Porn only relieves the symptoms it creates
Porn gives me nothing but takes everything
Porn does not give me what I want, an actual women with me
I don't have to do what my brain tells me to do
All of that is just as true as when I was dealing with strong urges in the last few weeks, it's just easy to forget about when things are going well. I remember now.