Blondie
Respected Member
Hey Dylank. Nice job with your success. "About the question before, is it wrong for example to do a 'M' without anything else?" Well first of all, I don't think it's wrong to do M, certainly not morally wrong. However, masturbation is something I would suggest refraining from for the time being (maybe 3 months), just because your mind right now probably has a hard time separating M from P, and M could lead you to a relapse.
I most definitely would not be looking at porn in anyway shape or form, because porn's the devil that brought you here in the first place, and morality has nothing to do with it. Your life without porn will be better in every way, not to mention your sex life! Trust me on this.
As far as noticing sexy women when out and about, there's nothing wrong with that, and is completely normal if you're a healthy male (as long as you're not being a creeper and staring at them inappropriately). But of course, you have to ask yourself, is it beneficial for you to let your mind fantasize about every woman you see? Now I'm not saying you do this by the way, it's just something to think about in case you do it even a little bit. I've learned, and I say this as a man who is in complete awe of the fairer sex; that there's a very big difference between a man noticing a beautiful woman who happens to come into his view, as opposed to a man being constantly on the lookout and scoping for hotties 24/7. The first man has a mission in life, yet notices beauty and thanks the gods for it whenever he sees it, the latter has no mission in his life except lust in his heart. Now don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with lusting per se (I'm no moralist), but you do have to ask yourself this question, is lust getting the upper hand?
Just my two cents.
But whatever you do, porn is not your friend! You got this.
I most definitely would not be looking at porn in anyway shape or form, because porn's the devil that brought you here in the first place, and morality has nothing to do with it. Your life without porn will be better in every way, not to mention your sex life! Trust me on this.
As far as noticing sexy women when out and about, there's nothing wrong with that, and is completely normal if you're a healthy male (as long as you're not being a creeper and staring at them inappropriately). But of course, you have to ask yourself, is it beneficial for you to let your mind fantasize about every woman you see? Now I'm not saying you do this by the way, it's just something to think about in case you do it even a little bit. I've learned, and I say this as a man who is in complete awe of the fairer sex; that there's a very big difference between a man noticing a beautiful woman who happens to come into his view, as opposed to a man being constantly on the lookout and scoping for hotties 24/7. The first man has a mission in life, yet notices beauty and thanks the gods for it whenever he sees it, the latter has no mission in his life except lust in his heart. Now don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with lusting per se (I'm no moralist), but you do have to ask yourself this question, is lust getting the upper hand?
Just my two cents.
But whatever you do, porn is not your friend! You got this.
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