Another story - probably the same as everyone else
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Galatians51
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joepanic
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I'm on day 2
no mo
GBS
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612 days sober
36 days no MO
Appear to have started something. Thanks @joepanic and @Galatians51 and of course @Androg for your encouragement. Things here are extremely tense but it has zero to do with our relationship. Things have stirred up in the organising of wife’s mother’s memorial service. Clashes with siblings. It’s astonishing. Wow. I thought I had a big ego. Anyway it’s brought us a little closer as my support is needed.
Keep persevering gentlemen.
36 days no MO
Appear to have started something. Thanks @joepanic and @Galatians51 and of course @Androg for your encouragement. Things here are extremely tense but it has zero to do with our relationship. Things have stirred up in the organising of wife’s mother’s memorial service. Clashes with siblings. It’s astonishing. Wow. I thought I had a big ego. Anyway it’s brought us a little closer as my support is needed.
Keep persevering gentlemen.
Galatians51
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Blondie
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Hey @Galatians51. Yes I'm at 20 days.
That sounds like a plan to me. However, when you say 90 days no MO, are we talking about no masturbation for 90 days but sex with ejaculation, or 90 days with no masturbation, plus sex but no ejaculation also? Personally, I don't masturbate, period, except for when I relapse, so my 20 days of no O means I'm having sex but NOT getting off plus no masturbation in between, and that is a constant for me. For me, masturbation and porn go hand and hand, pardon my pun, thus, I don't masturbate ever. Obviously, there's nothing wrong with a hand session here and there, but for me, I'd rather feel the power in my loins between sex with my Lady than releasing it for no reason but being "horny", but that's just me.
Galatians51
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Dude that’s awesome! I was just referring to no mo, but sex is ok, but you’re way ahead in that regard!
Ok @GBS i am done hijacking your journal, sorry mate
Blondie
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Sounds good @Galatians51, thanks for clarifying. I've never gone 90 days before with this method though (having sex with semen retention), so I'll give it a try. However, I always give in eventually so maybe I shouldn't make any promises. 
And yes @GBS, I'll stop hijacking your thread now as well. Speaking of which, I just found this meme and nearly spit out my morning coffee.
You're welcome.
And yes @GBS, I'll stop hijacking your thread now as well. Speaking of which, I just found this meme and nearly spit out my morning coffee.
You're welcome.
GBS
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614 days sober
38 days no MO
Got therapy today. Let you all know. Pray hard.
There is/was a book that @Ezel was referencing recently that was hard core no masturbation theory. Within it, it said that the body takes 40 days to recover from the loss of strength every time you MO. The percentage recovery you make on each of those 40 days (so says the author) increases exponentially so that the majority of that recovery happens on days 37, 38, 39 and 40. Well that’s where I am and I don’t feel any difference to yesterday. Got the raging horn , trying not to fantasize. Failing.
We persevere.
38 days no MO
Got therapy today. Let you all know. Pray hard.
There is/was a book that @Ezel was referencing recently that was hard core no masturbation theory. Within it, it said that the body takes 40 days to recover from the loss of strength every time you MO. The percentage recovery you make on each of those 40 days (so says the author) increases exponentially so that the majority of that recovery happens on days 37, 38, 39 and 40. Well that’s where I am and I don’t feel any difference to yesterday. Got the raging horn , trying not to fantasize. Failing.
We persevere.
Ezel
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GBS
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615 days sober
39 days no MO
Therapy yesterday was top class. The guy knows us a bit now. He didn’t say anything crass this week and we just discussed the things we like and don’t like about each other. Good to have someone listening in when you do that. No we didn’t discuss sex. But I sense excellent foundations are being laid.
Good weekend gents. Avoid porn. It is poison dressed up as chocolate. Stay away.
39 days no MO
Look in the mirror. Cheers mate.
Thanks mate. I did this lengthy exercise a few times before but I think the testing times varied each time I did it. I wonder if that’s the feeling I am looking out for. Any views?
Therapy yesterday was top class. The guy knows us a bit now. He didn’t say anything crass this week and we just discussed the things we like and don’t like about each other. Good to have someone listening in when you do that. No we didn’t discuss sex. But I sense excellent foundations are being laid.
Good weekend gents. Avoid porn. It is poison dressed up as chocolate. Stay away.
GBS
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616 days sober
40 days no MO
’What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you." [Ralph Waldo Emerson]
Honestly I am not a big quotations chap. Can get lost in them and overwhelmed by how many there are. But good ones stay good forever. So I hope you like the above. I don’t need to tell you what it means because it’s obvious. The essence of living like a human being, a good on, that is.
Stay clean all. 40 days curiously just fine thanks.
40 days no MO
’What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you." [Ralph Waldo Emerson]
Honestly I am not a big quotations chap. Can get lost in them and overwhelmed by how many there are. But good ones stay good forever. So I hope you like the above. I don’t need to tell you what it means because it’s obvious. The essence of living like a human being, a good on, that is.
Stay clean all. 40 days curiously just fine thanks.
GBS
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617 days sober
41 days no MO
Had massive urge to MO yesterday. Can’t quite explain how I didn’t. Something inside me said don’t. This is not an allusion to the quote above.
It’s such new territory still…..the not MO’ing discipline. Let’s see. From age 14 to 59 I MO’d when I wanted to. I almost never resisted. So 45 years of giving in to a temptation. I didn’t know it was hurting me but I knew it wasn’t ideal especially when you’re married. Secrecy of it obviously makes it bad. And now I know that doing it to porn was SO wrong in multiple ways, so resistance is easier because one can focus on “being good”. But at 41 days it’s getting really tricky. Not all the time just about 5 times yesterday I wanted too a great deal.
Up to a point resistance to the temptation is excellent, but one can go too far. I still want to see how 90 days feels again so I am carrying on.
Stay clean everyone.
41 days no MO
Had massive urge to MO yesterday. Can’t quite explain how I didn’t. Something inside me said don’t. This is not an allusion to the quote above.
It’s such new territory still…..the not MO’ing discipline. Let’s see. From age 14 to 59 I MO’d when I wanted to. I almost never resisted. So 45 years of giving in to a temptation. I didn’t know it was hurting me but I knew it wasn’t ideal especially when you’re married. Secrecy of it obviously makes it bad. And now I know that doing it to porn was SO wrong in multiple ways, so resistance is easier because one can focus on “being good”. But at 41 days it’s getting really tricky. Not all the time just about 5 times yesterday I wanted too a great deal.
Up to a point resistance to the temptation is excellent, but one can go too far. I still want to see how 90 days feels again so I am carrying on.
Stay clean everyone.
Galatians51
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Bravo! That's great you were able to make it through the day!
GBS
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618 days no pornography
42 days no MO
I know this has been said before but I got a huge dose of it yesterday. When you stop watching porn and also stop masturbation and fantasy (very difficult that third one) then you walk around town and you look at women in a different way and they seem to see you in a different way too. Part of this I know is psychological. Women possibly always looked at us like this but we didn’t process it right before.
Imagine, I’m sure you can, that you have a porn session and then you go out shopping for groceries an hour later. You’re spent and your desires are low or zero. You’re not in the slightest bit interested in anyone because in your head you just had a sexual experience that no one else can compare with. Your brain has no interest in anyone out there. Your brain will just wait until you’re ready for another porn session.
But in our new world women are looking at us and we notice them. This in turn gives off vibrations and aura and we perceive a difference. They don’t know what percentage of men walking around the grocery store are porn free. If they did (the %age would be quite small I think) they might realise why the world can appear pretty dead sometimes.
Pornography is responsible for so much societal damage. The people at the top in the porn world deny there is anything wrong and would tell me I can’t prove it. I know they’re wrong.
Fuck porn.
42 days no MO
I know this has been said before but I got a huge dose of it yesterday. When you stop watching porn and also stop masturbation and fantasy (very difficult that third one) then you walk around town and you look at women in a different way and they seem to see you in a different way too. Part of this I know is psychological. Women possibly always looked at us like this but we didn’t process it right before.
Imagine, I’m sure you can, that you have a porn session and then you go out shopping for groceries an hour later. You’re spent and your desires are low or zero. You’re not in the slightest bit interested in anyone because in your head you just had a sexual experience that no one else can compare with. Your brain has no interest in anyone out there. Your brain will just wait until you’re ready for another porn session.
But in our new world women are looking at us and we notice them. This in turn gives off vibrations and aura and we perceive a difference. They don’t know what percentage of men walking around the grocery store are porn free. If they did (the %age would be quite small I think) they might realise why the world can appear pretty dead sometimes.
Pornography is responsible for so much societal damage. The people at the top in the porn world deny there is anything wrong and would tell me I can’t prove it. I know they’re wrong.
Fuck porn.