I_Love_Tuscany
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Hi Friends,
TLDR: I am married four years. My wife is pregnant with our first child, and we are beyond grateful and excited. Trying to conceive with PIED and DE was incredibly challenging, and at times I resorted to looking at porn when it was taking me too long to get hard. When trying to conceive, ejaculation on specific days is a necessity, so I used porn as a tool to get me ready when nothing else worked. I'm not proud of it, but I needed to get there somehow, and it was a last resort.
Now that the pressure to ejaculate is off, I've been rebooting with mixed success. When I've been in the mood, we had great sex. Yesterday, my wife was in the mood and surprised me by wanting to have sex. Unfortunately, it took me a long time to even get semi-hard, and we gave up. She's able to move on quickly, but the feeling of letting her down eats away at me.
I feel like crap. I'm down on myself, frustrated, and guilty that when she tried to initiate sex, I wasn't able to perform.
I'd appreciate any advice, words of wisdom, or perspective on navigating this situation.
Thank you : )
TLDR: I am married four years. My wife is pregnant with our first child, and we are beyond grateful and excited. Trying to conceive with PIED and DE was incredibly challenging, and at times I resorted to looking at porn when it was taking me too long to get hard. When trying to conceive, ejaculation on specific days is a necessity, so I used porn as a tool to get me ready when nothing else worked. I'm not proud of it, but I needed to get there somehow, and it was a last resort.
Now that the pressure to ejaculate is off, I've been rebooting with mixed success. When I've been in the mood, we had great sex. Yesterday, my wife was in the mood and surprised me by wanting to have sex. Unfortunately, it took me a long time to even get semi-hard, and we gave up. She's able to move on quickly, but the feeling of letting her down eats away at me.
I feel like crap. I'm down on myself, frustrated, and guilty that when she tried to initiate sex, I wasn't able to perform.
I'd appreciate any advice, words of wisdom, or perspective on navigating this situation.
Thank you : )