Wanttobebetter
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Great stuff Mart71. Congratulations to you and thanks from many for your inspiring positive comments!
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savingmysoul
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Hi Viper,
May i ask how many days you are along this process?
My wife and I have started a period of abstaining (today is day 12 no PMO, day 147 no PM), and this weekend my initial responses were almost instant and sustaining. That has helped my mental state.
Continuing to fight the good fight.
May i ask how many days you are along this process?
My wife and I have started a period of abstaining (today is day 12 no PMO, day 147 no PM), and this weekend my initial responses were almost instant and sustaining. That has helped my mental state.
Continuing to fight the good fight.
Viper
Well-Known Member
savingmysoul said:
SMS,
I'm on day 110 of no PMO.
If you consider that I was flatline since last year, I think I've come a long way.
I didn't learn about PIED until around January of this year and started my reboot the following month.
I'm still on that streak and as I've chronicled, it's not exactly smooth sailing.
You said that this weekend, you felt like you may have gone a few steps closer to your goal of full service
intimacy. During the reboot, you will get a hard on here and there. And of course, that is something to
be excited about. I just don't want you to think that there is some magic number of days where this issue
should be turned over. Every one reacts different to this process much like anything else.
Everyone has different tolerance to alcohol or every one has different reactions to smoking.
So rebooting is no different. I do feel the pain of those of you who have been dedicated to your reboot and
haven't seen satisfactory gains. I am not out of the woods yet but I am rejoiced that I can have intercourse.
You know how embarrassing it is to barely get it up and trying to penetrate only for it to deflate while the
person you're on top of is anticipating this grand entrance?
All I know is that week after week, I was getting hard here and there. And not just from lying naked with
my SO, but even in public when I'm in the presence of attractive women. Not rock hard mind you but it
would definitely inflate some. So patience is more than a virtue here. I'm thinking you'll probably turn the
corner sooner than later. At least I hope so and it's awesome that you have a supportive wife.
savingmysoul
Active Member
Hey Viper,
Just thought i would check in and see how you are making out.
I am still progressing along, but slowly. I haven't tried any pills - we decided that wasnt an option for us.
Still strong, still committed. No P & no M. Still unreliable, but having good moments here and there.
Stay strong
Just thought i would check in and see how you are making out.
I am still progressing along, but slowly. I haven't tried any pills - we decided that wasnt an option for us.
Still strong, still committed. No P & no M. Still unreliable, but having good moments here and there.
Stay strong
Viper
Well-Known Member
Thanks for stopping by SMS.
I'm on day 120 of my reboot.
As you know, I do have intercourse but I'm still sensitive and busting all kinds of nuts. But
it's happening all kinds of fast.
The good news is that i did get morning wood this morning.
I am happy about that but only to a certain extent.
Pleased because of functionality but not so pleased because my desire to jerk off
is heightened in the morning. Doesn't matter if I had sex the night before or not.
So I have to fight the urge especially when I'm at my place.
The best news to report is that my appetite is normal again. Everyone reacts to depression
in different ways and dealing with E.D. and the reboot takes it's toll. But the tide is
turning as you can see. I want to see the same gains among others here.
I'm on day 120 of my reboot.
As you know, I do have intercourse but I'm still sensitive and busting all kinds of nuts. But
it's happening all kinds of fast.
The good news is that i did get morning wood this morning.
I am happy about that but only to a certain extent.
Pleased because of functionality but not so pleased because my desire to jerk off
is heightened in the morning. Doesn't matter if I had sex the night before or not.
So I have to fight the urge especially when I'm at my place.
The best news to report is that my appetite is normal again. Everyone reacts to depression
in different ways and dealing with E.D. and the reboot takes it's toll. But the tide is
turning as you can see. I want to see the same gains among others here.
savingmysoul
Active Member
Hey Viper,
glad to hear you feel you are making progress.
I had a good day yesterday, was intimate with my wife, was able to get through the fear of failing. I too am not close to being out of the woods, but i feel as though i have turned some corner. Morning Wood is pretty consistant, and more days than not pretty solid. My sensitivity has increased incredibly, and it is very much like i am back at the beginning. All good signs, but still plenty of work to do.
Stay strong, good to hear from you.
SMS
glad to hear you feel you are making progress.
I had a good day yesterday, was intimate with my wife, was able to get through the fear of failing. I too am not close to being out of the woods, but i feel as though i have turned some corner. Morning Wood is pretty consistant, and more days than not pretty solid. My sensitivity has increased incredibly, and it is very much like i am back at the beginning. All good signs, but still plenty of work to do.
Stay strong, good to hear from you.
SMS
WiP
Member
All good info guys, thanks. SO and I have grown apart as a result of my addiction. It has been a very very long time since we have attempted. Last few attempts were dismal failure that put me into major funk. Morning wood regularly, general thicken at times when close with wife but nothing that has given me motivation to move beyond. I have hope that one day we will get there, just not at the 90 or 100 day mark.
Viper
Well-Known Member
Ok,
so here is the tale of the tape.
I'm on day 131 free of P.
day 131 free of PMO
However, I snapped my masturbation only streak on day 128.
Now, I feel like I would be doing a disservice if I didn't have full disclosure on the subject matter.
But I also know that this site was designed to discourage jacking off.
I respect that.
If you've been following my journey here, my latest issue is no longer arousal.
I may not be able to get morning wood consistently but at least I can get a hard on
when it's time to perform with my lovely assistant. So of course, that means a lot
to her and I. It's the fast climaxes that's been a problem. So I've
been sensitive down there and been doing some research to see how I can improve that.
Keep in mind, that being in my 40's and having PIED, I do not expect to be
a sex machine even after a successful reboot. However, 2 minutes is unreasonably short for intercourse.
I tried using a condom and of course, that took some sensation away.
Sure, I lasted a little longer but I still felt like I was erupting to fast.
And to think I didn't use the condom before because the time it takes
to put one on, my hard on would go away. That's no longer the case
so I'm happy about that. This is where jacking off enters the scene.
I wouldn't mind explaining what I did to improve my stamina but
I feel like it's important to disclose jerking off had something to
do with it based on my research. This doesn't mean I think you
should do it. This also doesn't mean I will be doing it regularly. I needed
to find out what worked and what didn't because everyone reacts to different
medicine, treatment, rehab, etc.
I can only tell you that from last month that I started
having sex regularly and cumming faster than the speed of light
to what's been going on lately is nothing short of remarkable.
I can now last longer and longer. No shit.
Hey, I couldn't believe it myself. My SO couldn't wait
to wake up the next morning for round II.
And of course, I answered the bell 8)
Why am I saying all of this?
Because everyone of you can overcome this addiction.
I call it venom to match my serpent persona.
I've struggled and was depressed and having a hard time
because rebooting is not easy. But nothing very rewarding
is very easy. Most of you married men reading this have disappointed,
but very supportive wives. If you only knew how valuable that
is. Now you know and like G.I. Joe, knowing is half the battle.
It's more mental than physical. I know if i have a bad day,
it's not gonna be like that every day. I think the same for
a good day. What I expect when I wake up is the opportunity
to take on the challenges that I may face and to be well equipped
and prepared.
That's also why I chose the quote I have.
so here is the tale of the tape.
I'm on day 131 free of P.
day 131 free of PMO
However, I snapped my masturbation only streak on day 128.
Now, I feel like I would be doing a disservice if I didn't have full disclosure on the subject matter.
But I also know that this site was designed to discourage jacking off.
I respect that.
If you've been following my journey here, my latest issue is no longer arousal.
I may not be able to get morning wood consistently but at least I can get a hard on
when it's time to perform with my lovely assistant. So of course, that means a lot
to her and I. It's the fast climaxes that's been a problem. So I've
been sensitive down there and been doing some research to see how I can improve that.
Keep in mind, that being in my 40's and having PIED, I do not expect to be
a sex machine even after a successful reboot. However, 2 minutes is unreasonably short for intercourse.
I tried using a condom and of course, that took some sensation away.
Sure, I lasted a little longer but I still felt like I was erupting to fast.
And to think I didn't use the condom before because the time it takes
to put one on, my hard on would go away. That's no longer the case
so I'm happy about that. This is where jacking off enters the scene.
I wouldn't mind explaining what I did to improve my stamina but
I feel like it's important to disclose jerking off had something to
do with it based on my research. This doesn't mean I think you
should do it. This also doesn't mean I will be doing it regularly. I needed
to find out what worked and what didn't because everyone reacts to different
medicine, treatment, rehab, etc.
I can only tell you that from last month that I started
having sex regularly and cumming faster than the speed of light
to what's been going on lately is nothing short of remarkable.
I can now last longer and longer. No shit.
Hey, I couldn't believe it myself. My SO couldn't wait
to wake up the next morning for round II.
And of course, I answered the bell 8)
Why am I saying all of this?
Because everyone of you can overcome this addiction.
I call it venom to match my serpent persona.
I've struggled and was depressed and having a hard time
because rebooting is not easy. But nothing very rewarding
is very easy. Most of you married men reading this have disappointed,
but very supportive wives. If you only knew how valuable that
is. Now you know and like G.I. Joe, knowing is half the battle.
It's more mental than physical. I know if i have a bad day,
it's not gonna be like that every day. I think the same for
a good day. What I expect when I wake up is the opportunity
to take on the challenges that I may face and to be well equipped
and prepared.
That's also why I chose the quote I have.
savingmysoul
Active Member
hey Viper,
Hows things going?
Hows things going?
Viper
Well-Known Member
savingmysoul said:
Well,
happy to have sex like a normal man. That's refreshing.
I can say I've rebooted but I still believe I can improve in certain areas that my addiction
eroded.
And by the way, it's still a struggle to fight the urge to jack off or look at porn.
Even more so now because I can achieve more erections than I did when I
was flatlining.
But at least my depression and anxiety has receded for the most part.
My SO and I are enjoying our time with each other more and more.
We talked about the dark zone I was in during the reboot.
I'm not cranky and mad at my employer all the time like before.
I just enjoyed the recent American holiday we just had along with
the time off. And of course, The World Cup has been pretty exciting
so yes, I'm doing ok for the most part 8)
I see all the contributions you're making on the forum SMS and believe me,
it's making an impact.
Viper, I always enjoy reading your contributions. And you are doing great! Thank you for giving a nod to the women. I would clarify for me the disappointed would be he did not share his struggle or his feelings of unworthiness to me. The secrecy was tough. Because of the secrecy the trust went out the window and now has to be earned back. And that makes it hard to believe statements are true. However, with all that, I am still glad I know. Now there are no more secrets.
The good thing that has come out of this is, I am more attentive to his emotions. He used to be very quiet and would not talk about how he felt, now he talks. He is also more attuned to me and my moods as a result and the vice versa is true for me. We are a unit now. Before we were two together. Now we are truly one.
The good thing that has come out of this is, I am more attentive to his emotions. He used to be very quiet and would not talk about how he felt, now he talks. He is also more attuned to me and my moods as a result and the vice versa is true for me. We are a unit now. Before we were two together. Now we are truly one.
Viper
Well-Known Member
Gracie said:
Thanks for the kind words.
All I'm trying to do is recover and share experiences and offer advice based on them.
And pretty much give a bigger glimpse of how men think.
Unfortunately, it's hard for most women to accept how men really think when it comes to porn,
because they believe their man or their relationship is some sort of exception.
I am happy to hear that you're in a good place with your husband. I hope we get more
women to contribute to this forum. In fact, You probably helped inspire some to create
their account to do just that.
Viper
Well-Known Member
Just thought I'd check in.
Still trying to fight the good fight.
I am very grateful that I can have sex but like I've written before, I still have work to do.
My lovely assistant and I have grown closer since rebooting.
We probably would be stressing about something else if it wasn't for this.
That's just how relationships are.
It's all trial and error.
Just two people trying to be on the same page so we can turn it together to get to
the next chapter 8)
Still trying to fight the good fight.
I am very grateful that I can have sex but like I've written before, I still have work to do.
My lovely assistant and I have grown closer since rebooting.
We probably would be stressing about something else if it wasn't for this.
That's just how relationships are.
It's all trial and error.
Just two people trying to be on the same page so we can turn it together to get to
the next chapter 8)