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notgivinup
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I am here again today....because I am making the commitment to just come here...a place where I can process openly and honestly. I have to keep getting stuff out of my head. So, I am coming here to do it.
I am moving toward talking with my wife about everything...and I really do mean everything. I can't move past where I am if I keep trying to just gut it out on my own....I have traveled that short circle too many times.
She rode with me to work this morning....and just talked about what's been going through her mind lately...actually, she talked about what she has been reading in the Bible lately. She settled in on the story of King David....the guy who had everything going for him - he won all his battles, and was handsome, and a musician, and a warrior, he was a giant slayer, and he became king.
My wife put together a couple events ....one where King David was trying to show kindness and compassion to another neighboring King...and this neighboring king's advisers told him that David was up to no good, and trying to spy on them. In short, the neighboring king humiliated King David and the messengers who brought the gifts....and David became really angry...and went to war against this guy.
It was on the heels of this that David saw Bathsheeba...and took her and got her pregnant...and then began trying to hide what he had done...and he just dug a hole deeper and deeper and deeper....ended up committing murder.
My wife said to me this morning...."you know, it was on the heels of this huge misunderstanding that everything started to go bad for David. His life was great...then you turn the page and it was all falling apart. He was hugely misunderstood, and then it seemed that he put his focus in the wrong place....not looking to God to be his defense and his help."
I listened....and it all seemed to point to what I am wrestling inside.
I feel like the way is being prepared for me to just open up and tell her everything....she is ready to hear it, and I am ready to haul it out into the light. I feel like I am going to die....but at the same time, I know I will die if I don't.
NGU
I am moving toward talking with my wife about everything...and I really do mean everything. I can't move past where I am if I keep trying to just gut it out on my own....I have traveled that short circle too many times.
She rode with me to work this morning....and just talked about what's been going through her mind lately...actually, she talked about what she has been reading in the Bible lately. She settled in on the story of King David....the guy who had everything going for him - he won all his battles, and was handsome, and a musician, and a warrior, he was a giant slayer, and he became king.
My wife put together a couple events ....one where King David was trying to show kindness and compassion to another neighboring King...and this neighboring king's advisers told him that David was up to no good, and trying to spy on them. In short, the neighboring king humiliated King David and the messengers who brought the gifts....and David became really angry...and went to war against this guy.
It was on the heels of this that David saw Bathsheeba...and took her and got her pregnant...and then began trying to hide what he had done...and he just dug a hole deeper and deeper and deeper....ended up committing murder.
My wife said to me this morning...."you know, it was on the heels of this huge misunderstanding that everything started to go bad for David. His life was great...then you turn the page and it was all falling apart. He was hugely misunderstood, and then it seemed that he put his focus in the wrong place....not looking to God to be his defense and his help."
I listened....and it all seemed to point to what I am wrestling inside.
I feel like the way is being prepared for me to just open up and tell her everything....she is ready to hear it, and I am ready to haul it out into the light. I feel like I am going to die....but at the same time, I know I will die if I don't.
NGU