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Leon
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After going passed 100 days of abstinence, what advice can I give at this point?
1. Don't dwell on this crap. Don't think about it. Don't give too much place to it mentally.
2. If memories assail you, change the channel. If mental pictures pop into your head, don't get all crazy trying to directly fight it, you'll only fuel the fire. Rather, put your mind on something else. Sing your favorite rock song, imagine doing the dishes (yeah!), or think of a puppy! Lol... anything else. Just don't take it down the wrong road of, "Oh no, I better not think of this, this is so wrong, I hate this, I better not do this- this, this, this!" See how you're still thinking about it, even though supposedly you're fighting against it?
3. If your mind goes into a sexual fantasy, about a real or imaginary woman, get to the bottom of it. What am I feeling that I all of a sudden need to alter my mood in this way? Did someone insult me? reject me? Do I feel neglected? Did I think in some negative downer way?
4. If a woman is beautiful, acknowledge it- it's natural- it's okay. Then, just don't dwell on it. You're a strong man now, not the weakling who's chasing after every skirt, or lust after every woman as if she were a piece of red meat. You're not a dog, trying to sniff every she-dog who comes by. You're in control.
5. Be careful how you identify yourself. "Hi, I'm Joe, and I'm an alcoholic." Oh, really? You haven't drank for 5 years now, how are you still an alcoholic? Then when life comes and kicks you when you're down, guess what you'll turn to for comfort? No. You are not your addiction! And neither am I!
6. See yourself sober. Imagine yourself, how great life will be with that crap in the rear view mirror! Imagine yourself saying, No, in various situations. See yourself actually hating what you once loved.
7. If you're a man (or woman) of faith, pray- but not the pathetic, "God help me to not do this!" prayers, but rather pray, "God, I say 'no' to this crap! Help me to stand in your strength"- or something like that. Prayers that take into account the victorious winner that you are, not that person who's always on the verge...
Be thankful, celebrate the smallest of victories, smile, don't hold onto anger, forgive people who piss you off, and above all- know that you are loved more than you could ever possibly imagine.
***An important link to a more helpful and detailed list: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=4059.0
1. Don't dwell on this crap. Don't think about it. Don't give too much place to it mentally.
2. If memories assail you, change the channel. If mental pictures pop into your head, don't get all crazy trying to directly fight it, you'll only fuel the fire. Rather, put your mind on something else. Sing your favorite rock song, imagine doing the dishes (yeah!), or think of a puppy! Lol... anything else. Just don't take it down the wrong road of, "Oh no, I better not think of this, this is so wrong, I hate this, I better not do this- this, this, this!" See how you're still thinking about it, even though supposedly you're fighting against it?
3. If your mind goes into a sexual fantasy, about a real or imaginary woman, get to the bottom of it. What am I feeling that I all of a sudden need to alter my mood in this way? Did someone insult me? reject me? Do I feel neglected? Did I think in some negative downer way?
4. If a woman is beautiful, acknowledge it- it's natural- it's okay. Then, just don't dwell on it. You're a strong man now, not the weakling who's chasing after every skirt, or lust after every woman as if she were a piece of red meat. You're not a dog, trying to sniff every she-dog who comes by. You're in control.
5. Be careful how you identify yourself. "Hi, I'm Joe, and I'm an alcoholic." Oh, really? You haven't drank for 5 years now, how are you still an alcoholic? Then when life comes and kicks you when you're down, guess what you'll turn to for comfort? No. You are not your addiction! And neither am I!
6. See yourself sober. Imagine yourself, how great life will be with that crap in the rear view mirror! Imagine yourself saying, No, in various situations. See yourself actually hating what you once loved.
7. If you're a man (or woman) of faith, pray- but not the pathetic, "God help me to not do this!" prayers, but rather pray, "God, I say 'no' to this crap! Help me to stand in your strength"- or something like that. Prayers that take into account the victorious winner that you are, not that person who's always on the verge...
Be thankful, celebrate the smallest of victories, smile, don't hold onto anger, forgive people who piss you off, and above all- know that you are loved more than you could ever possibly imagine.
***An important link to a more helpful and detailed list: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=4059.0