You're right. I've spent a lot of time beating myself up about this. Not about the porn so much, but more because I've allowed myself to become addicted to something. That realization is really screwing with me right now. Then, of course there's the part where I've ruined jerking off for myself. It's going to be "a thing" now forever. I'll get over it, but for now that's how I feel. I watched the Ted talk with my wife. Her biggest issue is the lies, not so much the porn. Yeah sure, she has a huge problem with the webcams, but had I admitted it a while back when I was caught the first time, we wouldn't be here now. She's coming around and so am I. We're going to make it. Thanks for your post.