Day 11
My first flatline:
So I am pretty much convinced, beyond any reasonable doubt that I am in a flatline period. I have no libidio, no desire to go after women, no erections, no morning wood ... nothing. Its also reduced in size since I have stopped. None of these things really bother me to be honest as I know, from what I have read anyways, that they will come back in time when they are ready. I guess the thing that is really getting to me is the mood swings. I literally go from being happy, optimistic and content to the complete opposite. I feel sad, lonelly, worthless ... and just generally that I am making a balls of my life. Its probably my biggest fear. To look towards the future and worry that I will have regrets in the future. That I am missing out on so much in life and that I will hate myself in my later years for doing so. Whenever these dark moments hit I try to remind myself of what it is thats causing these feelings and that they are only temporary. Does anybody have any useful tools or prehaps something I could do to help reduce the effect of theses ?
Its never a case of one size fits all:
I can safely say that I have wasted the past year (if not 2) of my life trying to fix a problem ... that to be honest I am not even sure is there. Ever since my the incident with my male x, I haven't been happy or at least satisfied. I havnt been satisfied with myself in a long time. Indeed leading up that I wasn't 100% happy either but I believe that tipped me over the edge and since then all I have been trying to do is get back to the emotional state I was in before any of it happened. It felt like something had changed or been pushed in my life and now it was just sending me into this downward spiral.
As I am a fairly mature guy, especially for my age, I've been trying things here and there to fix it. I have tried going to the gym to get in better shape so maybe I might feel better about how I look, I have tried working on my education/career to try and feel good and succesful about that and I have even tried cutting out video games from my life in order to free up time. While all of these things sound good in my head, I feel like I am missing the point. Its not one thing that is going to solve my lifes woes. Giving up PMO isnt going to make me happy if I still spend most of my time sitting at home. Going to the gym and getting fit wont make girls flock to me if I don't make an effort to talk to more people for longer periods. Why should I stop playing video games if its one of the things I enjoy doing ?
Anyways the point I am getting at is that there isn't a quick fix or a single fix for solving unhappiness. I'm not going to wake up one day and be like ... "ahh so all I needed to do was put that there and now Im back to normal!". I need to change who I am. I know that sounds terrible but its not like I mean become somebody I'm not its more like embrace who I want to be if you get me ? Increase my levels of motivation, set out clear goals for me in my life, don't shy away from things that make me uncomfortable. As the famous Nike once said ... "Just do it.". Anyways this all clicked in my head on the ride to work today which brings me onto my next goal.
My Goal ... for life:
Motorcycling is a potentially lethal hobby/pass time/way of life and I can honestly say I have stopped trying when it comes to paying attention on the roads. Mostly I keep my head facing forward, do a bit over the speed limit, let my mind wander and pray that anything that comes out in front of me either sees me first, or my brakes are good enough to stop. This isn't on and I know its going to lead to a serious accident. Im going to focus more while on the bike, re-iterating all the checks, observations and things I see while driving. Hopefully this will helpful keep my mind locked onto the road, stop it from drifting and actually let me enjoy riding a bike rather than worrying 24/7.
Anyways please guys if you have any words, comments, advice for me please do post below and share!
Thanks for reading