After the weird episode with the wife last night I spent the evening watching TV while wife was on the porch getting tanked. I had good company with the kids. Went to bed around 11 pm as I wanted to get up this morning and work on a rental property I am selling. So last night I got a very ferocious hard on. I MO'd for the first time in 14 days. Obviously I had mixed emotions about it, but I was successful in visualizing sex with my wife (not easy right now). I used my right hand and tried not to give it the "death grip" mentioned frequently in the forum. I also tried to not prolong it. It worked, I came, and was able to go back to sleep. My wife has no problem with MO by the way, but she didn't wake up since she had been drinking, but it would have likely been ok if she had woken up.
OK so I have read about this, but thought I should mention it for other guys. My cum was very viscous, thick. My O was somewhat shallow, but enough to get the job done. Interesting, but I think this was all pretty normal. I am not feeling the need to MO again. Still tempted to PMO, but I am starting to understand the difference. I feel really good about it.
Finally asked the wife about throwing away the porn. I would have done this last night except I would have had to parade the bag in front of my daughter, step-daughter and wife who were out on the porch. Wife is trying to turn her daughter into a drinking buddy with some success. Wife got "pissy" about my porn question. She said "I don't care that is your shit." I explained I thought it was both of ours and was just trying to be considerate. However, thinking about it... I bought it, and while I did use it with her a couple of times I guess she never regarded it as hers. She probably wouldn't have purchased it, but she does use porn from time to time. So I guess it is mine? I probably rationalized buying that shit thinking it was a marital aid, while in reality she saw it as mine. Crap... perceptions. This change I am making is reframing my thinking in so many ways!