I want to make a few remarks in my journal.
First thing, today I started doing meditation and yoga again. I did yoga at home with youtube videos for the last years. It was fine, but I couldn't meditate, and I didn't reduce my porn frequency that time because I didn't know or was not prepared to know about it.
I did meditation during the first weeks and months of abstinence and it worked, it helped me sustain more time without a relapse. I stopped when I felt comfortable.
I will start meditating again for the following reasons:
First, I read this and I think it is probable: "If you continue to masturbate to porn-inspired fantasizes, then yes, they can last indefinitely." In this topic: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=6051.0
I recall that in the beginning every fantasy I had was capable of making me relapse with porn. I had to do many mental tasks to take the fantasies away. Meditation helped a lot, counting down numbers too, I did things like body drumming in the shower to distract myself from masturbation.
I started willing masturbation again in the weekend from 07/02 to 07/06 when I went with my wife to take care of her mom. I became soft or indulgent with my fantasies. It was not near as frequent as I used to, but it is delaying my recovery. So that weekend was a split in my path. From there to now I was not entirely fighting my fantasies, and at the same time I became capable of denying me porn without truly deny myself the fantasies I learned with porn.
I will think about this as "a circle of action". First I conquered some part of my outer circle, I'm capable of sitting in the computer and do things alone without my wife's supervision. It is not a guaranteed ability, and I should not relax and think that I'm in full control. But now, I definitely have to tackle with my inner circle: the sketched actions in my head, the images and voices and desires that I definitely don't intend to put out as willed action - and more than that, they are in the way of conquering back my capacity for healthy sexual intimacy.
After all, I'm putting again a m counter. At the beginning I'm not putting a long goal for this one. My goal will be established by beating the next m with or without o.
First thing, today I started doing meditation and yoga again. I did yoga at home with youtube videos for the last years. It was fine, but I couldn't meditate, and I didn't reduce my porn frequency that time because I didn't know or was not prepared to know about it.
I did meditation during the first weeks and months of abstinence and it worked, it helped me sustain more time without a relapse. I stopped when I felt comfortable.
I will start meditating again for the following reasons:
First, I read this and I think it is probable: "If you continue to masturbate to porn-inspired fantasizes, then yes, they can last indefinitely." In this topic: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=6051.0
I recall that in the beginning every fantasy I had was capable of making me relapse with porn. I had to do many mental tasks to take the fantasies away. Meditation helped a lot, counting down numbers too, I did things like body drumming in the shower to distract myself from masturbation.
I started willing masturbation again in the weekend from 07/02 to 07/06 when I went with my wife to take care of her mom. I became soft or indulgent with my fantasies. It was not near as frequent as I used to, but it is delaying my recovery. So that weekend was a split in my path. From there to now I was not entirely fighting my fantasies, and at the same time I became capable of denying me porn without truly deny myself the fantasies I learned with porn.
I will think about this as "a circle of action". First I conquered some part of my outer circle, I'm capable of sitting in the computer and do things alone without my wife's supervision. It is not a guaranteed ability, and I should not relax and think that I'm in full control. But now, I definitely have to tackle with my inner circle: the sketched actions in my head, the images and voices and desires that I definitely don't intend to put out as willed action - and more than that, they are in the way of conquering back my capacity for healthy sexual intimacy.
After all, I'm putting again a m counter. At the beginning I'm not putting a long goal for this one. My goal will be established by beating the next m with or without o.