I thought I remembered the name Zyrock, it was off YBR. Particularly of= your motivational posts on the journal of a user called Apuleius. I noticed around those days you must have been well into 100 days no pmo. Things were looking up for you, you were exceptional at expressing yourself, helping and inspiring others.
Some of what you right connects with me to an astonishing degree, we sometimes look back at the past and think what if we did such and such different. The reality is, don't trouble yourself thinking about 'what has been' and remember 'what can be'. I use to be that guy, to some degree maybe still am that guy that won't meet a person halfway or has to let the other initiate rapprochement.
The truth is, always choose to be the conciliator. We all have flaws whether you'd call them sins/ human error is dependent on your own beliefs. When we are upset/angry we too readily magnify the faults of others.
Especially with women, it's more virile of us if we chase them, than vice-versa. Only if we are just with women, can we be just to ourselves. For me anyway, that's what travelling on this no pmo journey is substantially about. I get the impression that your a wonderful guy, who someday soon a lucky lady will cross his path.
My only advice, if I may, is that you soften your heart, forgive and forget (this includes yourself too) , there will be another much more fulfilling lady who could very well be the one as romantics will state it and your next wife. After all premaritally you were 'optimistic' and again after that last marriage you still can be, and I testify to this optimism through your ybr journal.
I thank you for those lovely reads you once provided and implore you to never give up on your dreams to live out your nightmares. It's not a fair trade. You're better than this pmo garbage and you know it!
One day at a time, my friend.