Hi guys,
I'm a 22 years old french guy, living near Paris, studying computer science. I used to run and now I go to the gym. I used to play guitar. I've been shy, it's better now but not as good as it should, I'm kind of an introvert one. I have dififculties to talk about me, to open myself to others. Most days I can't approach people, some others I'm surprisingly good at it.
I know the nofap scene since.... like 4 years now. I have to be honest with you : I have never been really commited to it. I have never made more than 30 days I think. I made huge progress in my life anyway, but relapsing always take me down again. Too often I felt like I couldn't do it.
Somehow I'm still not convinced that not masturbating at all is healthy.
Last months have been difficult, I broke up with my girlfriend, I hate my job and don't have the courage to really find the one I want, I gained a bit of fat (even if I gained some muscle too ).
I want to leave for good now. I want real girls, real sex. Since I broke up with my girlfriend I haven't had a satisfying dating life.
Yeah, that's it : it's not that much that I want to quit porn or masturbation, it's simply that I want to be awesome, to my full potential, and get beautiful girls. I love girls so much, so much more than watching porn. I want the beach body, the girls and the $$$.
I also had good times : first times going to clubs, first times dancing with girls in public... I still don't feel confident enough to go directly to girls and dance with them and get them home but still, this has been amazing and it made me realize I could have success with girls.
The effects of PMO are, for me :
- lack of libido
- lack of energy
- suicidal thoughts
- confidence going down
- feeling like shit
- becoming antisocial
- becoming paranoid (ie everyone hates me, everyone looks at me in a bad way, ...)
- stopping going to the gym
- eating crap / not eating enough and losing muscle / gaining fat
Day 1.
Relapsing causes depression to me.
Those last months, I was relapsing every 3 to 10 days. I wasn't that bad, I was simply not as good as I could be.
Last week, I lost my accountability partner - we said that the next time one of us relapses, we end the partnership. ~ 3 days later he relapsed, it made me sad. I masturbated like 5 times the next day and then relapsed almost everyday or every 2 days.
Last time was last night.
Somehow I'm glad I relapsed. It made me realize I was doing shit, it made me remember that I needed to quit, it threw me back the reasons why I have to stop.
I want to improve myself and my dating life, I know I can do it. I'm tired of writing at the moment, see you soon ;p
I'm a 22 years old french guy, living near Paris, studying computer science. I used to run and now I go to the gym. I used to play guitar. I've been shy, it's better now but not as good as it should, I'm kind of an introvert one. I have dififculties to talk about me, to open myself to others. Most days I can't approach people, some others I'm surprisingly good at it.
I know the nofap scene since.... like 4 years now. I have to be honest with you : I have never been really commited to it. I have never made more than 30 days I think. I made huge progress in my life anyway, but relapsing always take me down again. Too often I felt like I couldn't do it.
Somehow I'm still not convinced that not masturbating at all is healthy.
Last months have been difficult, I broke up with my girlfriend, I hate my job and don't have the courage to really find the one I want, I gained a bit of fat (even if I gained some muscle too ).
I want to leave for good now. I want real girls, real sex. Since I broke up with my girlfriend I haven't had a satisfying dating life.
Yeah, that's it : it's not that much that I want to quit porn or masturbation, it's simply that I want to be awesome, to my full potential, and get beautiful girls. I love girls so much, so much more than watching porn. I want the beach body, the girls and the $$$.
I also had good times : first times going to clubs, first times dancing with girls in public... I still don't feel confident enough to go directly to girls and dance with them and get them home but still, this has been amazing and it made me realize I could have success with girls.
The effects of PMO are, for me :
- lack of libido
- lack of energy
- suicidal thoughts
- confidence going down
- feeling like shit
- becoming antisocial
- becoming paranoid (ie everyone hates me, everyone looks at me in a bad way, ...)
- stopping going to the gym
- eating crap / not eating enough and losing muscle / gaining fat
Day 1.
Relapsing causes depression to me.
Those last months, I was relapsing every 3 to 10 days. I wasn't that bad, I was simply not as good as I could be.
Last week, I lost my accountability partner - we said that the next time one of us relapses, we end the partnership. ~ 3 days later he relapsed, it made me sad. I masturbated like 5 times the next day and then relapsed almost everyday or every 2 days.
Last time was last night.
Somehow I'm glad I relapsed. It made me realize I was doing shit, it made me remember that I needed to quit, it threw me back the reasons why I have to stop.
I want to improve myself and my dating life, I know I can do it. I'm tired of writing at the moment, see you soon ;p