Day 45: Today I complete the first half of my no PMO challenge. Let me tell you, it's been a ride.
Not because it's difficult. But because it isn't. I made appropriate changes in my life, took up some new hobbies and ways to pass my time. I have hardly experienced any urges at all since starting this. No relapses into PMO at all. There was one time I opened up a browser and typed in my (used to be) favorite porn site. I looked at the images ... and it disgusted me. I could no longer fathom why I would have ever masturbated to such things.
This points out to me that I have achieved quite the change of mindset in the last 45 days. I'm pretty proud of myself.
But also, the fact that I didn't have any urges at all, seems to point out that I was never a real addict of porn either. I see a lot of people posting on this site who have real problems with staying away from porn, while I don't.
I definitely had PIED though, and I still do, but without the real addiction part, it seems.
Which is nice, I suppose. One less obstacle to worry about.
I do feel like I have a masturbatory problem. I haven't been able to go more than 18 days without MO and I am a bit disappointed in myself with this. Of course, looking at the big picture, 18 days is quite a lot. Especially coming from at least once a day. In the last 45 days, I have achieved 4 orgasms. Without a change of habit, that would have been at least 45 orgasms, so it is quite a massive change.
But still, urges to masturbate are becoming more frequent now, sometimes waking up in the middle of the night, horny as hell. Sometimes finding it triggering to watch a tv show which includes a (graphic) sex scene (like Game of Thrones). I resist those triggers pretty well, but I can feel their pull while I'm sitting on my couch quite strongly.
So far I haven't given into those triggers, but it is something that seems to be far more triggering for me than actual porn.
In any case, I've had a few occurrences of real arousal during the day that I find quite exhilarating because I can't even remember the last time I actually got aroused by the prospect of seeing some girl, or even hugging a bit could set me off a bit. For me, this does imply that things are changing.
If I had to guess, I'd say my biggest problem wasn't exactly the porn watching, but it was more the death grip masturbation that I was definitely employing. My sensitivity seems to have returned somewhat so far. I'm interested in seeing how far I can take this and how long it will take me to regain full sensitivity. I'm hopeful.