These last few days have been tough. This morning, I had to get out of bed an hour earlier than normal to avoid MOing. It's frustrating, but I will get through this. I am going to try unchained suggestion of taking a cold shower. Brrr!
When I first posted on this site a month ago, I had decided I never wanted to watch porn again, and I had a 30 day goal of no MO. What got me through those early days were thoughts that I would get to MO at the end of the 30 days. In the week before I reached my goal, the beast really amped up the dopamine. I was buzzing with anticipation of my celebratory MO. The big event. As a drug addict and alcoholic (clean and sober), I'm no stranger to dopamine rushes. As a result of all this, I decided that I wasn't ready for any MO and pushed my goal out another 30 days. Killing me..
In hindsight, I wish I hadn't kept that MO reward dangling like carrot in front of me, egging on my recovery. I know I will never be able to return to daily MO, and I am quickly (sadly) realizing I should take periodic MO completely off the table. I want to destroy my high-stakes reward neural pathway. I don't think I will be free until I have turned down the volume on the dopamine permanently. MO is always going to push my buttons sooner or later - who am I kinding? Moderation is not a word I understand.
When I first posted on this site a month ago, I had decided I never wanted to watch porn again, and I had a 30 day goal of no MO. What got me through those early days were thoughts that I would get to MO at the end of the 30 days. In the week before I reached my goal, the beast really amped up the dopamine. I was buzzing with anticipation of my celebratory MO. The big event. As a drug addict and alcoholic (clean and sober), I'm no stranger to dopamine rushes. As a result of all this, I decided that I wasn't ready for any MO and pushed my goal out another 30 days. Killing me..
In hindsight, I wish I hadn't kept that MO reward dangling like carrot in front of me, egging on my recovery. I know I will never be able to return to daily MO, and I am quickly (sadly) realizing I should take periodic MO completely off the table. I want to destroy my high-stakes reward neural pathway. I don't think I will be free until I have turned down the volume on the dopamine permanently. MO is always going to push my buttons sooner or later - who am I kinding? Moderation is not a word I understand.