Anothertry
Active Member
Hi Gummianka,
Like your approach!
I think you have every right to keep your skeptical mind. And let's face it, this is an emotional area for everyone. It is about sex, intimacy...and there are people out there with strong views who can be judgemental.
I think a good way to look at what you are doing coud be as a scientific experiment. The hypothesis the experiment is meant to examine is whether you have PIED. It is further hypothesized that if this is the case, stopping PMO will end the PIED. The method is to abstain from PMO for 90 days. We will see the result at that point.
Either the hypothesis will be proved correct at that point, or you can then examine alternative hypotheses.
Such as:
1) Am I just giving myself a hard time, (pardon the pun), and it's quite normal to be unable to perform occasionally.
2) When I am unable to perform, it may tell me something important about the situation I'm in. That there is something I am uncomfortable with.
3) There may be a psychological cause.
4) There may be a physical cause.
Incidentally,- on the subject of NOFAP as a weird religion, I realise some people ae rather ardent, evangelical even, in their views. I don't think that's true of me, but I do know I write a lot about spirituality in my own journal. I don't expect others to have the same views. The reason it is important to me is that spirituality is a central guiding force in my life, affecting every choice I make. There are loads of great reasons for me to quit PMO - it effects my energy, relationships, friendships and work in massively adverse ways. But the thing that seems to give me the most motivation to quit is looking at how it affects my spiritual life (which as you can see - for me is kind of my whole life anyway. Wanting to approach everything about myself and the world around me with compassion and fearlessness. Big project!). So I think a lot about this. But it's ok if other people don't.
Like your approach!
I think you have every right to keep your skeptical mind. And let's face it, this is an emotional area for everyone. It is about sex, intimacy...and there are people out there with strong views who can be judgemental.
I think a good way to look at what you are doing coud be as a scientific experiment. The hypothesis the experiment is meant to examine is whether you have PIED. It is further hypothesized that if this is the case, stopping PMO will end the PIED. The method is to abstain from PMO for 90 days. We will see the result at that point.
Either the hypothesis will be proved correct at that point, or you can then examine alternative hypotheses.
Such as:
1) Am I just giving myself a hard time, (pardon the pun), and it's quite normal to be unable to perform occasionally.
2) When I am unable to perform, it may tell me something important about the situation I'm in. That there is something I am uncomfortable with.
3) There may be a psychological cause.
4) There may be a physical cause.
Incidentally,- on the subject of NOFAP as a weird religion, I realise some people ae rather ardent, evangelical even, in their views. I don't think that's true of me, but I do know I write a lot about spirituality in my own journal. I don't expect others to have the same views. The reason it is important to me is that spirituality is a central guiding force in my life, affecting every choice I make. There are loads of great reasons for me to quit PMO - it effects my energy, relationships, friendships and work in massively adverse ways. But the thing that seems to give me the most motivation to quit is looking at how it affects my spiritual life (which as you can see - for me is kind of my whole life anyway. Wanting to approach everything about myself and the world around me with compassion and fearlessness. Big project!). So I think a lot about this. But it's ok if other people don't.
