1qqq1 said:
I had a terrible day yesterday. Felt weak, weak, weak. Things have been going very well this time and have really stepped up my exercise, diet, and socializing. Things are going well at work. I've been able to thwart the urges through diverting my attention but for some reason I just fell apart, not sure what happened. Part of it may be frustration over not being able to find a SO.
What scares me is that after basically all summer trying to reboot (with 3 or 4 relapses) those pathways in my mind are just as strong as they were when I started. I don't know how that works.
I was looking at YBOP and saw where the sensitized pathways wired in my head can take a while weaken but the thought that they will always be there and may wake up at any time freaks me out a little.
Anyways, I'm determined to beat this so I can become the person I know I can be.
Just keep fighting. It will get better. I know it might not seem like it, but it does. Yesterday I had to drive through the seedy part of town, strip joints, etc. I felt zero temptation. The reason is clear, I've learned that such things bring no lasting satisfaction.
The physical effects of addiction are strong and can make life hell for a while, but it can be overcome. Understanding how it works helps us greatly in breaking the grip of addiction. There are other things you can do. Reading the book Breaking the Cycle by George Collins really helped me. If you are dealing with something greater than Internet porn addiction then you have to change your relationship to porn and to sex itself. I know that in my case I had spent a lifetime becoming excited by the very prospect of porn. I've overcome that now and I'm no longer triggered by something innocuous which then escalates to porn. For me, I think that refusing to masturbate has been the key. I've trained myself not to seek self pleasuring. It's been ove 600 days since I've ejaculated and I'm just fine. You can do it too.