Time for another counter reset. I fall down, I get Back up. I fall down, I get back up. Repeat until I fall no more... I still feel like I have momentum in battling this thing and moving my life forward in other areas as well. The last couple of weeks have been a real test. I had a really, really bad few days at work ended up staying up literally until the sun came up and in a moment of weakness pmo'd. Then after work did it again this time looking at porn for a couple of hours. The scary thing is that after a year of attempts and some really good progress, when I've slipped up, I still go almost directly to what I consider the worst. Like a lot of people years of looking at porn and needing that escalation of shock to arouse me, I was looking at some deviant stuff and things that are really messed up. I guess I figured I would look something less graphic because I should need less stimuli at this point. Maybe my mind and mouse just went there out of habit. It is disturbing whatever the reason. I didn't have an erection most of the time so maybe that is a sign of healing because I never had that issue when watched porn before. The dopamine hit was strong. I want to learn from this so I'm taking time to review why I am eliminating porn and masturbation from my life. And say a few words to my nemesis.
Dear porn and masturbation,
I know you think you know what is best for me and just love being in control. Watching me suffer, making do things I don't want to and feel weak, ashamed, and alone. For a long time I allowed you. In fact wanted, invited and craved you in my life. The truth is today the things you have to offer and promise just don't fit in with my lifestyle. See, I am a busy dude with a lot of great things going on and interesting, beautiful people to interact with and frankly don't one more second to waste on you. I know you' re not a very good listener and well aware that you will be there lurking for a long time. Just waiting...with all the time in the world. But I learned something from Winnie the Poo that I may have put on the back burner and forgotten for a while but think it applies here. "I'm braver than you believe, stronger than you know, and smarter than you think." And you should know by now that you don't have the strength that you once did and your not getting any younger either. Meanwhile, I am learning everything I can and my life is becoming filled with experiences and fulfillment. Getting stronger, wiser, and becoming the person I want to be. My tool belt is amped up with ways to rid you as a solution in my life. And I know the truth about you. I haven't quite figured everything out yet but know your impact and lies are no longer welcome. The things I want in my life are simply more powerful than you and the escape and numbing you so proudly provide is not needed anymore. My life is constantly evolving and in the process of making these changes, take a look and see where you fit in to the plan:
I will be in control of my thoughts and actions.
I will be able to have a meaningful intimate connection with a woman.
I will no longer live with shame and secrets.
I will have the courage to follow through with my goals.
I will be confident, resolute, and outgoing.
I will be able to feel great joy and pain.
I will feel worthy of someone else's love.
I will not fear to interact with or objectify women.
I will embrace being vulnerable and asking for help when needed.
I will love myself.
So there you have it. We both new this day would eventually come. Really, It's not you... It's me. I've changed.
NOW GET THE F**K OUT OF MY HOUSE, B**CH!