Thank you cranm, I will look into it.
I really want to try separating porn from vanilla images like pinups and fashion pictures, pictures of beautiful women, but already I have noticed a resistance in me and it comes from insecurity.
Why is there a tendency to move to harder stuff?
When you see a pinup or a fashion picture, the confidence of the women in it with their sexuality triggers your insecurity, you want to see them brought down a level, degraded, brought down to your level or below. And this comes from feeling insecure about your own sexuality, your ability to meet them as equals.
Again it goes back to attraction to power imbalances. I have always been attracted to sexually powerful women lowering themselves by giving pleasure for nothing in return. As I said, this comes from insecurity, wanting charity, seeing myself as unworthy, unable to meet them as an equal.
So I really want to just appreciate women in pinups or fashion pictures and stop myself from moving on to harder stuff.
In fact even these images can be degrading to women, creating false senses of what femininity is meant to be, from body image to attitude, but they are better than porn by a huge degree. The women are showing off, they may still be acting, but they are showing off, though they may still be lowering themselves to men's expectations.
Being able to meet them as equals in my viewing should help with my self esteem. Ideally I'd like to not seek out images at all. But I want to get over the trigger to move to harder stuff that such vanilla images so often cause, and this means working on my image of self worth.
It degrades me to look at harder stuff because I am accepting that I cannot meet sexually attractive women as their equals.
I need to conquer this attitude and transcend it. Accustoming myself to looking at more vanilla images without moving to harder ones will help.
Thank you.