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fyg said:Congrats on 60 days TK! 8)
I second that emotion!
fyg said:Congrats on 60 days TK! 8)
Branch said:fyg said:Congrats on 60 days TK! 8)
I second that emotion!
TK-421 said:Day 61
No more "take 2", that is an accomplishment to get into new territory with my number of days.
TK-421
Oneway said:TK. Haven't heard of you for a while. Hope everything is good.
Oneway said:Hi TK, nice to hear from you. It is good to hear that you're implementing positive changes in your life. All the issues (stress etc.) you mentioned for sure contribute to relapses and keep the pmo-cycle ongoing.
What I have learned reading journals on this forum (and on another with similar purpose) is that it is not uncommon to have several attempts to reboot before finally breaking free. With your recent long streaks of being clean you have a good foundation to build on and make the final breakaway. Still the hard work needs to be done every day, every moment. Choice by choice.
All the best.
jjacks said:TK, I read through your journal and found your struggle moving and your honesty about it quite touching. There are so many points in there that I and certainly many others among us can identify with.
I agree that PMO addiction may be harder than other addictions to shake. I think a factor is that it is a solo activity, while drinking and smoking are social and more socially-acceptable activities. Hence, the support for kicking those is also more socially available. With PMO, we only have ourselves and our solo triggers. Just a thought.
Keep up the good work and the good writing.
balanced said:TK, I'm sorry to hear about your lapse and continued struggle. This is difficult work, and I emphasize both DIFFICULT and WORK...
The key to success, I found, is really simple, though really difficult: Control your thoughts. Our thoughts feed our decisions, and our decisions lead to behaviors. Our thoughts lead us to believe that lapsing is OK, that it is not that big a deal. But a pattern of lapsing becomes a pattern just like PMO, a hole in your defenses that becomes a formalized entrance into PMO.
I can't put it any more simply, and I mean this as an empowering statement -- you CAN control your thoughts, all of the rationalizations and self-sympathy, all of the justifications and permissions, you control all of those. Choose the thoughts you want, cast out the thoughts you do not want. This will lead to better decisions, fewer moments of weakness, no lapses, and no more bad behavior.
You have it in you, believe in yourself, you are strong enough to do this...learn to love the feeling of exercising resolve and self-discipline more than the feeling of momentary pleasure from PMO or MO. Make strength and control over your thoughts the new drug for your brain. It can become a powerful pathway for creating lasting change...I know with certainty, standing at day 1108 PMO/MO-free, that we alone, as men and human beings with potential, are capable of making this change, and responsible to ourselves to do so.
Find the strength, exercise it, recognize the strength and power you have when you exercise self-discipline, feel the rush of being able to overpower the single distracting or enticing thought, enjoy the feeling of strength...repeat, repeat, repeat.
Best to you...
TK-421 said:It has a been a key realization to not start down the slippery slope much earlier on in the process.