Jverhoye
Active Member
Hello Reboot Nation:
This is my first journal post. I arrive at this forum having recently completed a nearly 3 year treatment program for Compulsive Sexual Behavior (or CSB is I have come to know it). My life has been transformed in so many ways and I'm happy to say I am porn-free, still married, actively engaged in my children's' lives, and participating in a weekly after-care group. Here is a quick overview of my journey.
My first porn exposure was with a magazine that a friend's brother owned. I was 7. By the age of 13 I was masterbating nightly. I saw my first porn movie when I was 16. Throughout my 20s and into my 30s I would see the occasional VHS porn movie. I began to really have problems with porn when it became available on the internet in the mid 90s. In 2011 my world came crashing down. After my wife fell asleep, on May 1, I got on my iPad. As I lay next to her, with the sound muted, I began my nightly routine of watching porn. Eventually, I wound up in the bathroom, alone with my iPad watching porn. It was 2:00 in the morning. Suddenly my wife burst into the bathroom. Needless to say a very tense interaction took place. I ended up going downstairs and trying to sleep. I was having a panic attack, so I drove myself to the ER. My BP was 160 over 120. I eventually calmed down and my wife came to the ER. When I met her back at our home she asked me to move out. This was the third time over the last 12 years she had "caught me" looking at porn. So, I moved out...for 2 months. I called my therapist the day after I moved out and I was referred by my him to an amazing, life-saving program--The Center for Sexual Health at the University of Minnesota. That is where I was able to get help, understand my anxiety and my dysfunctional coping mechanisms (namely, porn) and how I could recover from CSB. As I mentioned above, I am continuing my recovery with a weekly meeting. I continue to work hard at my "sobriety" from porn, and I also continue to feel my brain slowly shifting. I completely resonate with the Ted Talk Gary gave and all the research about how our brains are affected by porn.
So, that's an overview of my journey. I have "come out" about my CSB and porn use to my family, some friends, and the men's group. Now I'm doing it on line in this Forum and it feels good to do so. I look forward to engaging this Forum and continuing my Journal. There are certainly a ton more pieces to my puzzle, and over time I will undoubtedly be sharing them.
This is my first journal post. I arrive at this forum having recently completed a nearly 3 year treatment program for Compulsive Sexual Behavior (or CSB is I have come to know it). My life has been transformed in so many ways and I'm happy to say I am porn-free, still married, actively engaged in my children's' lives, and participating in a weekly after-care group. Here is a quick overview of my journey.
My first porn exposure was with a magazine that a friend's brother owned. I was 7. By the age of 13 I was masterbating nightly. I saw my first porn movie when I was 16. Throughout my 20s and into my 30s I would see the occasional VHS porn movie. I began to really have problems with porn when it became available on the internet in the mid 90s. In 2011 my world came crashing down. After my wife fell asleep, on May 1, I got on my iPad. As I lay next to her, with the sound muted, I began my nightly routine of watching porn. Eventually, I wound up in the bathroom, alone with my iPad watching porn. It was 2:00 in the morning. Suddenly my wife burst into the bathroom. Needless to say a very tense interaction took place. I ended up going downstairs and trying to sleep. I was having a panic attack, so I drove myself to the ER. My BP was 160 over 120. I eventually calmed down and my wife came to the ER. When I met her back at our home she asked me to move out. This was the third time over the last 12 years she had "caught me" looking at porn. So, I moved out...for 2 months. I called my therapist the day after I moved out and I was referred by my him to an amazing, life-saving program--The Center for Sexual Health at the University of Minnesota. That is where I was able to get help, understand my anxiety and my dysfunctional coping mechanisms (namely, porn) and how I could recover from CSB. As I mentioned above, I am continuing my recovery with a weekly meeting. I continue to work hard at my "sobriety" from porn, and I also continue to feel my brain slowly shifting. I completely resonate with the Ted Talk Gary gave and all the research about how our brains are affected by porn.
So, that's an overview of my journey. I have "come out" about my CSB and porn use to my family, some friends, and the men's group. Now I'm doing it on line in this Forum and it feels good to do so. I look forward to engaging this Forum and continuing my Journal. There are certainly a ton more pieces to my puzzle, and over time I will undoubtedly be sharing them.